Great Couples Counseling in Newburgh, NY. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couples are my passion! When was the last time you had an open conversation with your partner about sex? About emotional intimacy? About communication? We look at the negative cycle that has swallowed you both up, causing stress and disconnection. I am also an affair specialist and have worked with countless couples to sift through the incredible pain to see if there is anything left of the relationship to be salvaged (in many cases, there is). I have met many couples who come in as roommates, where deep wounds are present. Couples feel like my office is a safe place to share, connect, get questions answered and get the professional help that they have needed.

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Working with couples, married or not I will help you understand and resolve conflicts and improve your relationships. I will give you the tools to communicate better, negotiate differences, problem solve and even argue in a healthier way. I know the techniques that will help you reach the right pathway to happiness.

Some therapists may recommend to a particular couple that the partners engage first in individual therapy, separately, before engaging in couples work. If both partners are not able to maintain a certain level of insight, responsibility, and maturity in their communications, couples work will be ineffective. For relationship counseling to significantly help a relationship, each partner needs to have a commitment to the relationship, or, at least to the couples counseling for the time it continues. Each partner must be generally honest, self-aware, and interested in doing relationship work to have an optimal outcome. Some couples need therapy to help end a relationship in a healthy manner.

Couples counseling involves learning to listen, agreeing to disagree and having mutual respect for self and others. This reaches beyond marriage- it can be any type of relationship. I am currently studying the Gottmann Method for Couples Counseling and know how to facilitate communication skills to bring a clear understanding and better engagement strategies for couples.

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist much of my work is with couples. Couples can be challenged in all stages of the life cycle: Pre-marriage, marital, living together, separating, divorcing, re-marrying, etc. Working with couples is a complex and challenging area of therapy which I particularly enjoy. Often the stakes are high. Helping couples come to a place where each partner is more whole and healthy and the relationship is strong and satisfying is a very gratifying part of my work.

Our intimate relationships can be the source of our greatest joy and the place we confront our deepest fears and vulnerabilities. Through the use of an emotionally focused approach, I help couples expand and reorganize their inner experience, develop an awareness of destructive patterns, reconnect with one another and heal from emotional pain. Research on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) has demonstrated the effectiveness of this approach: Following EFT, 90% of couples report improvement in their relationship, and indicate that that the changes attained through therapy endure over time. EFT allows couples to have a new experience of one another, and ultimately to create secure connection.