Grief and Loss Counseling in Baldwinsville, NY.

It has been really difficult to spend so much time alone. To see everyone else you know having deep connections with others and wanting something similar so badly for yourself. You know that life has little meaning without relationships, but you struggle to keep them alive, you struggle making them in the first place. I can help, together we will develop a plan to find the relationships you have been longing for.

Loss is the inevitable that takes us by surprise. The surprise is that it actually happened and then the mysterious journey can be very confusing. Ranging from feeling like you are on a roller coaster to feeling mired in depths of sadness. This journey is made all the more complex if the relationship was unresolved or conflicted. Loss is inevitable and everyone faces it. There is no one path. Many people will believe their is one path and then expect you to be on it or over it. Your path is your path. It is unique and it might have unique stumbling blocks. Your not alone.

Grief and loss is, unfortunately, a normal part of living. There is no single "correct" way to grieve: different cultures and even individuals from the same culture grieve differently. The only consistent feature is that grief takes time. The most effective thing anyone can do for someone grieving is to be there—to listen, to empathize, to walk along with the grief. There is no "fixing" grief. But counseling can help prevent normal grief from developing into major depression or other mental health conditions.

Losing a loved one, a person, a pet is like losing a part of ones self. Coping with loss is not a simple, cookbook process. No one can tell you how to manage and while some people talk about "stages of grief" it will never be that simple. Some people can find solace in their religious faith, their faith's scriptures, their faith's rituals, their faith communities. For others these resources sound and feel hollow. They need a person or people to walk with them and talk with them on the journey after death, separation or loss. I am willing to work with you throughout that process.

When we lose someone we love, it feels like we have lost a part of ourselves. Something within us has been torn out, leaving a hole that we easily imagine will never heal. The pain can be profound, the feelings of helplessness, or regret, or guilt overwhelming. Having a partnership where you can talk through these feelings can make a huge difference not only in how quickly and how well you are able to move through the process of grieving, but also how you ultimately are able to frame the experience and your memories of the person lost into the narrative of your own self and life as you move forward. What you carry with you afterward is just as important as surviving the hurt of the loss.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I know personally how devastating grief is. When we lose someone or a relationship we love, it feels as if we will not be able to ever recover. Sometimes we get stuck. With a directed grief approach, you can learn how to manage your loss and move through the process. By discussing your feelings and understanding about grief, we will release the pain more quickly and retain what was beautiful, helping you move towards acceptance.