Anger Management and Counseling in Taylor Lake Village, TX.

“Often anger is a sign of engagement with life. People who are angry are touched deeply by the events of their lives & feel strongly about them. “…Anger is just a demand for change, a passionate wish for things to be different… And, as it was for me, it may be the first expression of the will to live.” ~from Kitchen Table Wisdom Anger is a natural phenomenon. As a human being on this planet, you will become angry. And yet, it seems to be the most feared of all emotions. We suppress it instead of learning how to express it appropriately. In working with you in therapy, we will look at how you have learned to not express your anger and how you might approach it differently.....

Very often we look at emotions as good or bad, right or wrong. Anger is a natural part of our emotional experience of life. We experience challenges and frustrations in our daily lives and sometimes it can be difficult to work through the experience with the intensity of anger we may be experiencing. Learning to understand what the anger is about and why it is as intense as it is can help us to move into a new relationship with our anger which allows us to experience it the way we want without guilt or shame.

We have all faced circumstances in life that provoke anger. It is a very healthy and natural reaction to some stressful and problematic situations. Sometimes, however, these reactions go too far and hurt the people we love. There are several techniques that work well to reduce angry outbursts and aggressive responses directed at others. I can help you or your child discover strategies to remain calm in stressful situations and channel energy into emotional problem solving that leads to healthier and more positive outcomes.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Struggling with anger can be isolating and overwhelming, but you don't have to navigate this journey alone. We specialize in helping individuals manage their anger in healthy and constructive ways. Through our compassionate and personalized approach, we work together to explore the root causes of your anger, develop coping strategies, and cultivate emotional regulation skills. Our goal is to create a safe and supportive space where you can understand your anger triggers, express yourself authentically, and learn how to respond effectively in challenging situations. You deserve to live a life free from the grip of anger, and we're here to support you every step of the way.

Anger is a normal human emotion. Most men are taught that anger in the only emotion that is socially acceptable to show. In reality it is often other emotions that are driving the anger. The challenge can be to use your anger productively. Together we will explore how you cope with anger, the triggers of your anger, the thoughts and feelings associated with your anger, and ways to help you get your needs met with harming relationships with others in your life.

My approach revolves around helping clients gain a deep understanding of the root causes and triggers of their anger. I provide a supportive and non-judgmental space where clients can explore their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors associated with anger. Through evidence-based techniques and strategies, clients will benefit by learning healthier ways to express and manage their anger, enhancing their communication skills, and ultimately regaining control over their reactions.

My approach to helping individuals or families with anger and its management would be to allow the individual the space to begin to recognize where the anger is coming from as well what are the hidden emotions below the anger. Often, there are other emotions that are being masked below the anger. Exploration into fears and hurt would be discussed.

Anger, like other emotions, is neither good nor bad. Anger alerts our body and mind to know, simply, a problem exists that needs to be solved. Without anger, we become “door mats” where people “walk all over us”. Finding the solution that anger seeks can be tricky. The anger goal is to solve the problem; with the “rule” of not hurting ourselves, someone else, and actually making the problem smaller, not bigger. The challenge is when our “stuff” gets in the way. We “lose our cool”; allowing aggressiveness versus assertiveness to run the show. My approach allows people to find their voice, keep their personal power, while preserving relationships and solving the anger problem.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

In my approach to Counseling for Anger and Anger Management, clients will benefit from a holistic and empathetic perspective that aims to address the underlying causes of their anger while providing practical tools for managing and expressing this emotion constructively. I believe in fostering a safe and non-judgmental environment where clients can explore the root triggers of their anger, whether it's stemming from unresolved trauma, stress, or interpersonal conflicts. Together, we work on enhancing their emotional intelligence, communication skills, and stress coping mechanisms.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.