Great Couples Counseling in Windcrest, TX. Therapy to heal relationships.

As humans, we are relational beings. We all want to connect to others and have fulfilling relationships. This is why we understand that relationship problems can be very painful for all involved. When relationships are going well, it feels like your whole world is better. When your relationship is struggling, it feels like your entire world is crumbling. We are extensively trained in couples work and sex therapy. We can work with all parts of the relationship to help heal unhealthy conflict cycles and help build connection and attachment.

Couples benefit from focused work on issues of importance to them. Personality inventories, couple check ups, family-of-origin surveys with charts diagramming similarities and differences are fun, illustrative ways to understand, label, measure, and improve relationships. Gaining insight together in an understanding environment improves the way we live with each other.

Relationships take many forms and are as varied as we are as human beings. Couples work is not always husband wife, but can range from premarital issues and preparing for life together to same sex couples. Learning the best way to communicate with each other and gain greater levels of intimacy is one of the main goals when working with couples and I strive to move your relationship to the next level.

Living together as a couple can enrich your life. It can also being challenging and sometimes exhausting. The challenge of living in a way that nourishes both partners is ongoing as circumstances and people change. It requires courage and focus to face your role in the relationship. Typically each person is convinced that it is the other's "fault," and if he or would change then we could live happily ever after. Sometimes it may be that simple but personally I have not seen that. Working together we can explore the flow of your particular relationship and enhance the areas where it thrives as well as release the energy around the areas where it grinds and halts.

Couples come into my office with anxiety, hurt, pain, disappointment, stuck, unhappy, unmet needs, sadness, alone, and many other concerns and feelings. I appreciate all my couples and understand the difficulties of sharing your struggles. I would like to provide you with some tools, insight, understanding, and communication skills to help assist you in creating the type of relationship you desire. I enjoy working with couples and may use Gottman Method Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, or PREPARE & ENRICH for couples. For more information go to https://www.alamocounseling.net/couples.html

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

I approach "couples counseling" through the individuals and their methods of communication. I generally work with both people simultaneously, and attempt to act as a translator to the communication issues that are usually acting as stumbling-blocks to a smooth relationship. Although I absolutely do NOT take sides, I will unhesitatingly challenge the person who appears inauthentic. I give homework that is generally it's fun and brings people closer together. Sometimes it's soul-searching. I want to help you achieve what you tell me you wish to achieve; that being a smooth break-up; or living happily ever after

Are you surprised how fast, intense or frequent arguments start? Have you started avoiding talking about what is important to you because you are almost always misunderstood or it never goes well? There are lessons and practices of communication that everyone can learn to turn down the volume and tune-in to hear the real message with higher fidelity. You don't have to jump into the same argument dance over-and-over again, but you do have the responsibility and ability to do your part to be a better listener and speaker. You will learn ways to deescalate each other and be calmer in tense moments, which probably sounds difficult but we start off easy and add more with progress.