Cynthia Valentine, MA

Cynthia Valentine View Specialties

  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
  • 2816 Adams Ave, San Diego, California, 92116
  • Phone: 619-736-1176
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  • Session Fees: 225
  • This member is also available for online counseling.
  • Online-counseling methods: Email, Phone, IM, Webcam

Who am I?  
Along with being a Marriage and Family Therapist, I'm an avid reader, live an active lifestyle (it ebbs and flows :)) and love to help people. My clients describe me as caring, approachable and straight-forward. They leave sessions with a clearer picture of what those thoughts were all about, where those feelings came from and what actions they need to take to get on track with what’s most important to them. I've lived in San Diego for 14 years, having moved here after undergrad. 
 What can be expected from therapy? 
Therapy isn’t a miracle cure; it’s progressive steps of self and other acceptance, progressive understanding of actions, beliefs and feelings, and progressive healing from those life events that left a mark.
In the 6 years I’ve been practicing therapy, I’ve never once met someone in therapy who wasn’t courageous, daring and ready for something to change. While not everyone sticks with therapy, those qualities had shown up. Applaud yourself for the willingness to change, the courage to seek out more for your life. As we know, not everyone does.
 Anxiety Treatment 
Have you tried a million things to manage your anxiety? Maybe it wasn’t a million, but it was enough that when you found yourself anxious again, you felt pretty lost and maybe even a little hopeless. I know it can be tough being “high functioning” while struggling with anxiety and/or panic attacks. It’s as if people don’t think it’s that big of a deal if you still have a job, income, place to live, transportation… etc. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is an evidenced based treatment approach that teaches psychological flexibility. For example, when anxiety has its rigid hold on you and it feels like you have no other option, we’ll learn how to build I in wiggle room so that choice returns to your life.
 When feelings aren’t “friends” 
I have immense compassion for the human experience and would be considered a “feelings-friendly” therapist; which is a good thing! Our relationship with our feelings gets all mixed up, all the time. Are you avoiding doing something important because you don’t want the feelings that go along with it? Are you experiencing an increase in stress, worry or other consequences because of that avoidance?
Feelings are meant to be observed and felt, safely.
If you are unable to experience your feelings safely, looking for a therapist is an excellent step. Feelings are not always friends but they’re not always the enemy either. Feelings just are. They actually provide us with a lot of information. We need to learn how to understand and relate to those feelings  to what our bodies and brains are trying to communicate, in order for us to stay on a course in line with our values. In therapy, you’ll learn how to relate and be with your feelings in a way that won’t leave you beat up and off track.
Approach and Training 
ACT is an approach that requires additional training and consultation outside of graduate school. I graduated from National University in 2015. Since then, I’ve attended the boot camps, the online courses and have done tons of reading and consultation. What I’ve found to be the most significant teacher in learning ACT, is a personal connection to the strategies. To put it more simply, I practice ACT in my own life. As a personal belief, I wouldn’t encourage something that I don’t practice, and that’s something I love about this approach. The therapeutic relationship is a collaboration to help you take the actions that are most important to you. So if you are looking for a more robotic, distant, and impersonal therapist, I hope you find them because I will use metaphors, stories, humor and even memes to help you relate to your emotional experience in a healthy, constructive way and to take action in your valued direction.
Give me a call, or drop me an email, or send a request through my website at 
Let's Begin! 

Cynthia Valentine Reaches

San Diego CA