Family therapy services in 93117: Goleta, CA. Relationship and couples counseling.

When you come to see me with your loved ones I will assist you in strengthen your bond and enhance your communication skills. My approach helps you to communicate your needs and wants effectively, without blame, so your vis-a- vis, be this a child, parent of your partner can actually hear you. I often will suggest that families increase their 'fun quotient' before we tackle what is not working; it makes the hard work go easy. I am aware that some family issues involve high conflict, specially if divorce or separation is involved. My first step then, is to talk about appropriate boundaries between family members, also I will educate you about parental alienation and its danger on the child.

Most family therapists inadvertently create more chaos through their well-intentioned efforts to assist a family move through a change process. Why? Brains are inherently deregulated (all of us, may I add) and most talking and dialoguing misses brain-centric problems that need more intensive help. Many times the emotional trauma created by years of solving problems ineffectively can wreak havoc on the brain's parasympathetic nervous system, not ever giving the family a break from flight or fight thinking. Contact us for an innovative neuroscience solution to family dysfunction. Kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Family therapists are uniquely trained. We view the health of the family as the goal, no matter who shows up for therapy. For example, if a couple comes for therapy because they’re fighting a lot, I will ask “Where are the kids when you’re fighting? Do you know how it’s is affecting each of them?” The idea is that everyone in a family is deeply affected by actions, beliefs, and interactions they witness between family members.

Family therapy can provide a greater understanding of the dynamics of our families. Although there may be one person who is identified as the "problem" or "patient," we have found that exploring dynamics and communication styles can re calibrate the system. It is often the youngest child that brings the greatest clarity to a family session. For us, Including the parents in a child's therapy is a must. Our goal is to improve the harmony of the home.