I have been working in the counseling field for the past 41 years.
Since 1993 the ideas that have most informed my practice have been
those first described by White and Epston. This philosophy
is best expressed in their short saying “the problem, not the person,
is the problem.” None of us like to think of ourselves as problems,
but too often in our life experiences — in our families of origin,
in school, or perhaps even with health care providers —
we can come to believe that we somehow are “the problem.”
Internalizing that idea compounds problems because, in a very direct sense,
it can contribute to a growing sense of low self-esteem.
I like the idea that no one is their problem and I like even more the idea
“there is nothing so wrong with us that what’s right with us can’t fix.”
I think this idea is absolutely true whether we are dealing with problems as individuals,
as couples, as families or as an organization. There is nothing so wrong with us that
what’s right with us can’t fix
Along with the idea that we are not our problems (and being taken by a
problem is not a preferred way of being) I believe that counseling conversations
should be more about solutions than extended discussions about the problem.
Why? Because your solutions are really the flip side of the problems that have
taken hold of you. For instance, what might you do that you believe will
undermine the problem’s hold on you? In my counseling practice, I embrace the
assumptions put forward by the field of counseling described as Solution-Focused/Brief
counseling. These assumptions can be roughly stated in this way:
People have strengths, resources, and the ability to resolve
the challenges they face in life.
Change is always possible and is always happening
The counselor's job is to help clients identify the change that
is happening and to help them bring about even more change.
Most problems do not require a great deal of gathering of
historical information to resolve them.
The resolution of a problem does not require knowing what caused it
Small changes lead to more changes.
With rare exceptions, clients are the most qualified people to
identify the goal of therapy. (Some exceptions to this assumption include
having clearly unrealistic goals or pursuing illegal goals.)
Change and problem resolution can happen quickly.
There's always more than one way to look at a situation.
I believe the best way for you to tackle your problems is to know first of all,
that you are not your problem (you are really quite a bit more) and that you can
begin immediately to focus on solutions that are within your capacity to perform.
If you would like to know more about myself and Central Plains Counseling you can
click here. Currently I am accepting new clients by scheduled appointment, telephone,
email, Skype or iChat. I accept payment through PayPal. — George MacDonald
Tel: 1-204-745-3262 or email me here: firstname.lastname@example.org
George MacDonald ReachesWinkler MB