Anger Management and Counseling in Maricopa, AZ.

Anger can have devastating effects on our lives and destroy relationships. If you’re struggling with anger, you may be searching for ways to manage your feelings and behaviors. Within a supportive and non-judgmental therapeutic space, I will help you identify the root causes of your anger. At the same time, I will help you work on how to manage your anger, recognize what triggers your anger, find healthier ways to express your emotions, and better resolve problems and communicate more effectively.

Are you struggling with anger? Do you have outbursts & regret them? Do you stuff your anger & then take it out on someone? Is anger tearing apart you or your relationships? Are you worried how it will affect your kids? You are not alone. The good news is you can learn how to control your anger & still express yourself. You'll learn skills, understand where it comes from, and know how to express it in a healthy manner. Anger is a signal that you can listen to and learn from without destroying yourself or others.

Anger is a specific form of dysregulation where the body is out of balance and looking for away to get back into balance. We work with clients to get back into balance and find ways to release anger in healthy ways. Our goal is to understand where the anger may be coming from and work to find ways explore the things that may be underlying the anger response.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

The goals of therapy are expressing feelings assertively, identifying upsetting situations or triggers and being emotionally prepared, thinking logically, focusing on solutions, and calming down when faced with upsetting situations. Common strategies introduced are impulse control, increased self-awareness, meditation and breathing techniques, relaxation strategies, personal reflection, and emotional awareness using CBT, ACT, and solution-focused therapy.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

My approach to anger management typically involves components of (DBT) dialectical behavioral therapy, including, mindfulness, emotional regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness. In summary, mindfulness practices allow us to observe our current states of being, as they are, without judgment. Fostering emotional regulation allows us to work with what we are observing in ourselves. Distress tolerance skills help us work through the difficult moments. Lastly, interpersonal effectiveness work involves yourself and how you interact with others in your environment. DBT is shown to be beneficial when working with strong emotions, such as anger, and I have seen the benefits.

Anger is a surface emotion for many emotions. Anger is much like the “check engine light”, indicating that things need a deeper look. Jacqueline aids clients in this understanding. As well as a compassionate perspective on anger, and its importance in the healing process. Anger can have unwanted effects or consequences, sure, but when the individual looks to understand why they are getting angry it begins the healing process. Jacqueline does not accept court mandated anger therapy.