Great Couples Counseling in Lynwood, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

The benefits of Couple's Therapy can include an improvement in the relationship that saves it from stagnating or ending. But sometimes the couple benefits most by having a neutral, empathic environment in which to figure out that what they really want to do is break up, in the most amicable way possible. Whatever the conscious and unconscious goals of the client couple, these can be met given sufficient courage and the willingness to speak truthfully.

My goal is to help the couple learn how to love each other well. We work on learning how to express their needs and desires and also how to give to the other in the way that they need. I require homework assignments to develop intimacy and passion on a daily basis. We work on sexuality and physical closeness. Communication, anger management, roles and responsibiliteis are all addressed as needed. I am a nationally touring group counselor for New Life Ministries couple conventions. I have a hugs bag of tools and techniques as well as experience in leading couple retreats. Couples are my specialty.

Couples can find themselves in difficult dynamics. They get stuck in cycles and feel there is no way out. Therapy is a wonderful solution to helping couples become "unstuck." My hope is that you will find help for your struggling marriage or relationship - that you can experience freedom from constant conflict and begin to relate to each other in ways that are supportive and life giving.

Are you and your partner having difficulties? When you try to bring up issues, does it feel like they are counteracted by your partner bringing up their own issues and complaints? Not being heard out can feel so alienating, so unsupported, so lonely. I help couples to listen to each other with less defensiveness. I help them to be more supportive toward each other. I encourage each person in a couple to make small changes in themselves for the sake of more harmony in the relationship. Each person has to contribute, so it is not about either one of them being "the bad guy." I strive to support the relationship without taking sides, as I am "on the side of" the relationship.

My initial work was with sexless/touchless couples, where I developed a speciality in supporting them in bringing the passion back to their relationship. This included sex of course, but also a deeper passion, a passion for life, a joie de vivre, a deep, loving connection. This is how I became known as the "Passion Doctor". My approach is to get the couple back into connection: verbally, emotionally and physically through psycho-education and exercises specifically tailored for them. My approach is not cookie-cutter or generic and combines the many disciplines I have studied and practiced including psychotherapy, somatic work, breath work and Tantric practices.

Are you and your partner falling away from each other because of lost trust, communication issues or infidelity? Are you dealing with the staggering discovery of your partner’s affairs or use of pornography which have shattered your heart and your dream of a happy marriage? Or maybe you struggle with sex addiction, cybersex or internet porn and you want to recover, regain your partner’s trust, and rebuild healthy intimacy in your relationship. I invite you to consider therapy as your next step forward. In a confidential and supportive environment, I'll work with you individually or as a couple and guide you into a path of healing and recovery, for a healthier you and a happier relationship.

Many couples present in distress with a strong desire to enhance their relationships. I like to work with communication styles as well as explore some old patterns of relating that may have their history in early childhood experiences with their own families. Being able to identify these old patterns of relating to a significant other can help couples to understand why they bring these old patterns into their current relationship. After these patterns are identified, new ways of relating and communicating are explored and practiced. Listening skills and acceptance are important areas of exploration throughout therapy as well. Couples find new & satisfying ways of relating with each other.

Every couple and relationship is special. Every member of a couple has his or her own set of dreams and hopes--yet, these aren't always shared. Sometimes, one person's vision seems incompatible with the other's. Often (especially during times of great stress), dreams collide--and all anyone can hear is the screech and thunder of that devastating collision. Naturally, these are the times when it's hardest to connect to your partner (in or out of the bedroom), to communicate, or to resolve differences on your own. That's often the tipping point when I can best help couples do what's so tough to do alone: reveal yourselves, stretch yourselves, and reach out to each other.

When couples wish to work through their relationship difficulties, or do premarital couples therapy, they will find my office to be a safe, nonjudmental, and encouraging space. You will colaborate with your spouse, and prioritize issues you'd like to discuss. You will explore your own ability for acceptance and tolerance of your spouse's behavior. We will work together on communication skills, and styles, we'll try to soften the dialogue. We'll learn about problem solving skills with which husband and wife are heard. If there are sexual problems, I have experience in treating sex addiction, internet pornography addiction, and the affect of extended families on your relationship.

Relationships can be difficult. Intimacy can be uncomfortable. Communication can be strained. Even though 2 people love each other, sometimes that just is not enough. When I do couple's work, it is very important that both people feel heard and can express their thoughts and feelings openly. Sometimes, help is needed to assist the expression of these thoughts and feelings. I provide a safe and secure environment to allow this process to occur and hopefully, a couple can work through their issues together resulting in a stronger and more satisfying union.

Are you questioning whether to remain invested in your current relationship? Would you like to learn ways in which to strengthen your existing relationship? Learn effective ways of communicating with your partner that can help bridge the gap of misunderstandings, focus on strengths and identify tools that are already building on your commitment to one another.

Relationships are the stuff of life and wise persons will attend carefully to their intimate, committed relationship. Most couples are not aware of the sources of conflict and how these sources impact their relationships. Most couples do not understand how their coping habits, learned the child and teen years, will actually interfere with success in their love relationship. Couples all need to learn new and better ways to cope with relationships pain as their old coping habits will not work -- they will end up unintentionally hurting their partner.

Dr. Eris Huemer is the author of "Break-Up Emergency. A Guide to Transform Your Break UP into a Break THROUGH" and a media consultant for various national television networks. Dr. Eris holds a doctorate degree in marriage and family therapy She guides people toward making positive & lasting life changes and helps them create relationships that they want and deserve. Dr. Eris helps people bring their Sexy Back in relationships while helping individuals and couples reinvent themselves from the inside out. She has helped many coulples "save" their relationship when they thought it was over or on the brink of divorce.