Great Couples Counseling in Lynwood, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

When you and your partner aren't getting along it can effect the way you feel about everything else in your life. Are you constantly arguing? Feeling lost, lonely, and frustrated? Are you longing for more of a connection? Don't let another day go by like this. I will help you learn to communicate better with each other. Together we will discover the underlying issues that are feuling your conflicts and work toward more harmony in your relationship. I will help you reach your goals for coming in as a couple. Let's get started right away!

Do you feel like something is wrong or missing from your relationship? Most of us were not taught the skills necessary to have a healthy and satisfying relationship, which is why I believe almost everyone can benefit from couple's therapy. Working with couples who want to improve their communication, their sexual experiences and their quality of life is the focus of my practice...relationship and sex therapy is what I specialize in. I have helped hundreds of couples and I can help you too!

We have been sold a bad story about love. The truth is perfect is the enemy of the good in love and even in the good there are rough patches. But that doesn't mean you can't have a joyful and romantic relationship. I can help learn to handle painful relationships more effectively and engage fully in the process of living and loving together to build a life together.

The main thing I notice couples coming in for is to work on trust issues, communication problems, and lack of intimacy within the relationship. This can manifest into anger, affairs, shutting down, and a number of other behaviors. I work with couples FIRST on what does work, so that they can build upon skills they already possess within their relationship. 2: Teaching basic listening skills so that partners feel heard. 3: Teaching the couples how to communicate without attacking. 4: implementing those skills at home. Therapy is much more complex than this, and there are many more aspects of communication, but building strengths is very important to relationship success.

I have worked with many couples over the years...married, living together, same sex or heterosexual. My initial focus is to understand the underlying dynamics and pain that each of the partners is experiencing in the relationship and what has caused the conflict, disappointment and distress they now feel. I then work to help each of them understand the needs of the other, and be able to communicate (hearing what the other means and "feels" and expressing what they need and feel) in more loving, respectful and clear ways. We work together to restore the attachment and bond that has been damaged so that they can rediscover love, intimacy, trust and respect for each other.

You may have high conflict in your relationship or just feel like you are "growing apart" from your partner. Couples counseling can help you and your partner communicate on a "level playing field." As a therapist, I meet with you and your partner at the same time; therefore providing both of you with the opportunity to communicate in a calm, safe environment. Finally, I do not "take sides" in your relationship. I am an advocate for you as a couple.

Practice communication skills to powerfully begin resolving those angry and blaming arguments. Write brief notes about what was said and have expert training to show your partner the love you feel and need. Learn how to express disagreements as well as affection that can transform your relationship. Find how to identify and manage the emotional baggage you are bringing to each other.

Being understood and respected is the foundation for a healthy and loving relationship. This can happen when we decide to truly listen to each other. As Author Dr. David Augsburger puts it “Being listened to is so close to being loved that most people cannot tell the difference.” If you'd like to repair your relationship and move toward growth and healing then please call me for a free consultation at 714-326-6578

The benefits of Couple's Therapy can include an improvement in the relationship that saves it from stagnating or ending. But sometimes the couple benefits most by having a neutral, empathic environment in which to figure out that what they really want to do is break up, in the most amicable way possible. Whatever the conscious and unconscious goals of the client couple, these can be met given sufficient courage and the willingness to speak truthfully.

I have worked with hundred's of couples over the last 20 years. Each couple is unique in their own right which means there is no one way to "fix" a problem. Our deepest longings and hopes emerge in a couples relationship. Oftentimes we are working out unmet needs and hopes carried forward from our early family relationships to our present couple relationship. Problems become increasingly complex and difficult to overcome when we don't know what these issues are all about. Couples remain stuck in conflict not because of what they know, but what they don't know or can't recognize. The work in therapy is to help couples recognize unhealthy patterns of relating and introduce novelty.

When problems enter a relationship or family construct it is easy for people to fall into cycles of blame that create further disharmony. I utilize Narrative Therapy and post-modern practices that highlight social discourses that may be influencing your relationship. Collaborating, we will find what unites you in your relationship and how be in partnership against the problems that keep you in isolation. Together, we will target those struggles that are threatening your relationships and understand how to get out of the blame cycle—and how to re-focus on your shared dreams as a couple or family.

Relationships are the stuff of life and wise persons will attend carefully to their intimate, committed relationship. Most couples are not aware of the sources of conflict and how these sources impact their relationships. Most couples do not understand how their coping habits, learned the child and teen years, will actually interfere with success in their love relationship. Couples all need to learn new and better ways to cope with relationships pain as their old coping habits will not work -- they will end up unintentionally hurting their partner.

Couples are frequently referred to me by current and former clients, colleagues, and other healthcare professionals including physicians from several disciplines. More often than not, couples self-refer for help because one or both are feeling stuck and in pain. Sometimes there is an accumulation of hurts that have piled up. You need to talk about it. There are many benefits to couples counseling: enhanced communication, learning how to resolve conflict, creating more trust, growing intimacy, identifying triggers that can cause upsets, learning how to deal with the inevitable challenges that even the very best of relationships experience, and learning how to love at deeper levels.