Great Couples Counseling in Placerville, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couples counseling is where I really shine! I am able to understand both men and women's needs and perspectives on troubling issues and translate them into words the other can understand. Men often think couples counseling means they are going to be told they're wrong and broken. Men aren't broken - they just haven't been taught effective relationship skills. Men tend not to go around raising their sons talking about feelings, emotions, or deep meanings. I show men how to retain their sense of masculinity while learning to speak in a language their wives or girlfriends can appreciate. The magic of couples counseling happens when partners see the meanings behind their partners' words/actions.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

In my Couples Counseling work I help partners build on the strengths of their relationship while we work together to create new skills for communicating and solving problems. My approach is collaborative and I teach each partner to learn how to listen and hear what the other is expressing and needing as well as ways to be heard and understood better. I provide a safe place where difficult problems can be discussed and solutions explored and practiced so that couples can better resolve ongoing problems.

Why do we seem to have the same arguments over and over again? How do I know if we are really supposed to be together? Are there things we could be doing to better support each other, to help each other grow and be our best selves? If we really love each other, why do we so often hurt each other? How do I know if this is real love, anyway? Relationships are hard. Even more than desire, they require effort and understanding to make them work. Often, even if two people really love each other, one or both may need help to maintain the right effort or understanding to keep the balance necessary for long-term success. Having outside, objective support can make all the difference.

Are you experiencing distress in your relationship? Are you and your partner drifting further apart? Do you want to get back the love and trust you once had? Do you have recurring arguments that never get better? Marriage and intimate relationships have the potential for either great joy or great pain. Prolonged difficulties are not inevitable and not unsolvable. Contrary to appearances distress in relationships are often not caused by stressful issues, but by the way couples react to and deal with these issues. The process I use focuses on gently guiding your relationship towards greater joy, compassion and understanding. There is significant research on this approach and it has been found th....

Couples therapy is my area of specialization and I love this part of my work. Many couples I see are in significant distress in their relationship and we work toward understanding what is causing and maintaining the distress. We will identify and explore the relationship patterns that lead to disconnection as the first step toward positive change and then work toward the development of greater intimacy, trust, safety and emotional connection. I have helped many couples who are on the brink of separation and divorce, as well as couples who are recovering from affairs, betrayals, and addiction.