Anger Management and Counseling in South Barrington, IL.

I've seen many clients over the years with anger management issues. Men require a therapist's sensitivity to the issues they use anger to deal with. Learning the practical skills to deal with anger and understanding the issues of entitlement, humiliation, control, and fear that often provoke rage or it's opposite, suppressing, internalizing it, is my goal in working with clients through individual and couple's counseling. I see many couples where their anger with each other contaminates possibilities of working on common issues so I work with couples to disentangle their disruptive, sometimes abusive communications through a combination of individual and couple's counseling.

Is your child out of control? Are there holes in your walls, broken items, lots of tantrums, or siblings getting hurt in your home? Let me help! I specialize in working with youth aged 3-25. I can help you identify from where these behaviors are coming and strategize to help make your home more peaceful and your child less stressed. Sometimes, self-harm behavior is also a symptom of anger, but directed at oneself. Kids behaviors are typically goal oriented, and it's the adults' job to decipher the kid code! Give me a call for a free consultation, and if I'm not the right match for you, I'll send you somewhere nearby that may be a better resource!

There is healthy anger and unhealthy anger. Unhealthy anger tends to affect the ones we love the most, our overall mood, and our goals in life. Anger Management is an effective way to get ahold of your anger. I will work with you to help gain insights into your anger and provide you real world tools you can use to manage your anger more effectively.

Is your temper raging “out of control”? Do small things set you off? Do you react with sudden outbursts, flinging insults? Or, do you retreat in silent rage? Do you often feel your anger is justified, but upon reflection, regret your behavior? Or, do you find yourself locked in constant battle with people closest to you and those you love? Anger is a natural emotion, but unregulated anger can be destructive. It takes a toll on the individual and those around him or her, eroding self-esteem, wreaking havoc, and perpetuating feelings of disconnection, isolation and even loneliness. We can help you manage angry outbursts, understand your anger’s origins including unknown, underlying painful emotions, identify healthy coping strategies, channel your anger...(view profile to read more)

If after getting a flat tire, you think and continue to say to yourself: "This sucks"…This is terrible"…"Why does this always happen to me?"…"I can’t stand it"… anger will be the likely emotional response. And if you typically think in a negative way, then you will likely be more prone to psychological and physical difficulties like anger, poor relationships, stroke and heart disease.On the other hand, someone who thinks to himself "I’m glad that I have a spare tire"…"I can handle this"…"This is a hassle, not a horror", will react in a more realistic manner. Cognitive behavioral therapy can help you learn how to cope more effectively with life's challenges and lead a happier life.

You know your anger has made real messes in your life--at work, with friends, in your love life. I can show you many ways to get to the roots of your dark demons and fiery dragons. There are reasons and excuses that have been fueling your anger and you can only benefit from studying yourself. Saying you are sorry hasn't stopped your anger from returning. Anger that you understand and manage can serve you. Without looking inside yourself, anger will control you and cost you a lot more than time and money.

Reducing the words used many times by clients with anger issues can be the key to effective change in behaviors. These words are "ought, must and should'. Reducing or eliminating them can create profound change. Also reducing expectations of self and others has helped individual won struggle with anger bring it under control. Learning to accept anger as just another emotion and learning to validate and regulate that feeling become important tools in this very devastating issue.

Anger is a normal human emotion that we all experience. The way we express anger can be what distinguishes us as being healthy or unhealthy partners, parents, co-workers, employees or managers. Anger is generally a surface emotion. Beneath it lies another strong emotion, usually sadness, hurt, fear or inadequacy. In our efforts to protect ourselves from being vulnerable we often act out in anger, which generally takes us farther away from our true goals. In my work with you I will help you understand your anger in a different way and provide you with techniques and coping skills to manage this strong emotion moving you closer to your ultimate goals and strengthening your relationships.

Our focus on anger management is to identify and address the underlying thoughts and beliefs that trigger anger through cognitive restructuring. We encourage relaxation techniques and strategies to manage anger including deep breathing and identify personal triggers which help change thoughts patterns and responses to anger-inducing situations.  We utilize trigger identification,relaxation techniques and problem solving skills by encouraging clients to record their anger triggers and emotions, 
We expose our clients to situations that trigger their anger in a controlled environment to help them develop coping strategies. 
We tailor the counseling plan to each client

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger management is an important skill to master in our ever changing world, which brings increasing amounts of stress into our lives. I would utilize two tools: discussing an individual's background to discover possible causes for the behavior, and teaching positive approaches toward stressors. I have assisted both individuals and couples with anger management issues.

Home Psych Services, P.C. offers Anger Management treatment focused on understanding the complex causes of your anger and providing practical, solution-focused strategies to help you overcome your anger issues. We understand that anger often covers up such emotions as unhappiness, guilt, inadequacy, anxiety, and pain. We promise to help you sort through these emotions and work on strategies to deal with the root causes of your anger issues.

Lynette provides anger management group and individual therapy using cognitive-behavioral approaches based on the What's Good About Anger? curriculum. Clients will benefit from using this approach and curriculum since it is evidence-based. This model of anger management is described and widely distributed over the Internet in various newsletter and other online publications and has been extremely well received by hundreds of local, national and international anger management participants. It is currently being used by self-referred clients, court-referred clients, HR referrals, corporate executives, physicians, law enforcement, and others needing qualified anger management services.