Anger Management and Counseling in Orwell, NY.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Anger is a common feeling however if you find that your anger controls you more than you control it then it's time to seek help. At Transformation Counseling Services we will help you learn to identify your your feeling and manage anger before it turns into rage. Most people develop anger issues during the developmental stages, due to neglect or abuse. We will teach you new behavioral strategies to combat your anger. If you are ready to do the work we are here to help. Contact us for a free consultation.

Understanding what triggers anger and reaction is a first step to managing anger. Working through past experiences can help identify triggers and patterns of reaction. Being more aware of these triggers could lead to less impulsive behaviors and reactions. I use an evidenced based curriculum to help folks struggling with anger and have seen great results.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I follow a specific 12-week program for those coming for Anger Management. While the curriculum followed is more structured, the conversation can flow organically and address all the topics covered so that each person gets the most out of the time spent working on their anger. The curriculum allows for exploration of anger triggers, becoming more aware of family dynamics, as well as giving tools to manage anger. My work outside of the specific curriculum can help aid in this as well to find additional tools that could help find what works for the individual seeking this treatment.

Anger is an important part of our lives. Unfortunately, most people are not shown how to manage anger. In fact, most people (including our media) encourage explosive anger. Anger can either be destructive or freeing. Our culture promotes explosive anger. It is often labeled as "my rights" or being "assertive". Reality T.V. is one of the greatest purveyers of this myth. Anger is often experienced as being able to be "controlled". That is just not true. It feels true because there isn't much talk about healthy ways of dialogue around why we are angry and choices that offer different outcomes. There are different outcomes. They are life giving and freeing.

Anger is one of our fundamental emotions, part of the basic machinery of our mind and personality. In some ways it is a useful tool that helps to motivate and energize us in seeking fairness and justice in the world around us. But this powerful hold-over from our primal history can also be enormously destructive if we lose control of it. If your anger is slipping out of your control and you find yourself saying or doing things that damage your reputation or your relationships, hurt those around you, or otherwise consistently put you on the outside of society's expectations for behavior, you need help to find tools or strategies to change this and I would be happy to help.

We all feel angry sometimes. If your anger is controlling you, or if people around you are saying you seem frustrated alot, it might be time to talk to someone about it. Because I understand the healthy role of anger in relationships, we will identify what is prompting your chronic frustration, defuse it, and help you return to a happier state of mind and more satisfying relationships.

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Anger is a normal and adaptive response humans feel, but often is expressed in ways that hurt us and damage our relationships. When working with clients we will work to understand the emotions that impact your expression of anger and change this from destructive to constructive. This process will help you to better understand yourself, your values and live a life where you do not fear your anger,