Great Couples Counseling in Orwell, NY. Therapy to heal relationships.

Relationships bring unique challenges when trying to blend two separate complicated lives. Understanding the complexities of relationship dynamics and what each person brings to the table allows for change to occur. Strategies for better communication, healthy boundaries and self-responsibility is the place to start. Relationships will challenge the hardiest of souls as two storylines with the accompanying strengths, challenges, fears, insecurities, doubts, and dreams of each person. And it is here in the intimacy of relationship where those two stories unfold, intertwine and get worked out into a new story to be told.

I use the Gottman Method of couples counseling for couples, whether you're partners or married, this approach has been backed by 40 years of research to be successful. It includes an extensive intake process since each couple is unique, a feedback session, and from there specified exercises and tools to target the areas of your relationship that can be improved.

Why do we seem to have the same arguments over and over again? How do I know if we are really supposed to be together? Are there things we could be doing to better support each other, to help each other grow and be our best selves? If we really love each other, why do we so often hurt each other? How do I know if this is real love, anyway? Relationships are hard. Even more than desire, they require effort and understanding to make them work. Often, even if two people really love each other, one or both may need help to maintain the right effort or understanding to keep the balance necessary for long-term success. Having outside, objective support can make all the difference.

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Do you find yourself wanting to break free from unhealthy relationship patterns? Do you have goals for improving your relationship emotionally and/or physically? Would you like to heal the wounds of past attachments? Do you feel curious about exploring your sexual desires? Are there sex-specific concerns that you would like to obtain more clarity on? If the answer to any of the above questions is yes, please know that you are not alone. Even the healthiest of relationships need a check-up at times. As a licensed marriage and family therapist, and sex therapist, I am here to help. I have an extensive background in working with both individuals and couples.

Does something seem off in your relationship? Getting ready to tie the knot? Have you had communication breakdown after breakdown? Do you need a safe, neutral zone to mediate concerns? My practice is passionate about helping in this area. Starting couples work can build better communications, boundaries, respect, and overcome traumas to the relationship.

When we are struggling in our love relationship and decide to seek help, there are a few things to consider. Is your therapist a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist? Choosing someone with the right training is critical, because couples therapy is very different from individual therapy. Secondly, is the therapist a good fit for both of you? Therapy will not succeed if you or your partner doesn't like the therapist. I have worked with couples for 20 years, and believe that every relationship has the potential for improvement and health. I enjoy working with straight, gay, lesbian, married, pre-marital,and committed couples. You will feel accepted and welcome.

We know that even the healthiest relationships experience times where they feel lonely, and like their love has run its course. It is easy to let the stress of work, family and unexpected life events you affect you. Couples counseling gives couples the tools to improve communication, strengthen intimacy and deal with conflict. When you attend couples counseling with Transformation Counseling Services, we dig deep beneath the surface to uncover what has caused unhealthy communication. Our therapist specialize in working with all types of couples in every type of relationship. We work with LGBTQ+ couples as well as couples in non-traditional relationships. Please contact us for more info