Grief and Loss Counseling in Sloan, NY.

Most of us have experienced grief or loss at some point in our lives. Grief and loss are not just about losing a loved one or a family member. Those feelings can accompany a job loss or a change in circumstances, the ending of a relationship or a divorce, experiencing an illness or an accident, and a whole lot more. Whatever the event, it can be devastating. There is hope. I provide a comforting place to talk about your feelings and memories, and I will be a solid support for you through this difficult time. When you are ready, I help you move forward and redefine your life in a way that makes sense for you.

When we lose someone we love, it feels like we have lost a part of ourselves. Something within us has been torn out, leaving a hole that we easily imagine will never heal. The pain can be profound, the feelings of helplessness, or regret, or guilt overwhelming. Having a partnership where you can talk through these feelings can make a huge difference not only in how quickly and how well you are able to move through the process of grieving, but also how you ultimately are able to frame the experience and your memories of the person lost into the narrative of your own self and life as you move forward. What you carry with you afterward is just as important as surviving the hurt of the loss.

Having support when you need it is a gift throughout the grieving process. A supportive and collaborative relationship with a therapist can make riding the waves of grief more tolerable and meaningful. Everyone experiences loss in life and it’s important to have a safe space to grieve, in whatever way seems best. Although grief is a universal experience, it’s a unique process for every individual, thus therapy allows those to grieve at their own pace and with their own expectations.

I provide services that support people in loss of previous life style, loss of their own ability due to a disability, and loss of someone they were close to or a colleague. Grief is different for everyone, but one of the most popular models arranges the 5 stages of grief as Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. People take different amounts of time to get through these stages of try to skip over them but they are natural. Since everyone’s grieving is specific to them, my method is adjusted to accommodate my clients. My hope is to support you through this process to build coping skills, listen and be an extra resource.

When a person loses a loved one, whether it be a close family member, a pet or a friend, the feelings that are associated with the loss can be crippling. Just completing every day tasks can feel like a mountain that is impossible to climb. With guidance and support, it is possible to move forward in a healthy manner and gain the pleasure back into your life.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Grief and loss is, unfortunately, a normal part of living. There is no single "correct" way to grieve: different cultures and even individuals from the same culture grieve differently. The only consistent feature is that grief takes time. The most effective thing anyone can do for someone grieving is to be there—to listen, to empathize, to walk along with the grief. There is no "fixing" grief. But counseling can help prevent normal grief from developing into major depression or other mental health conditions.

Grief can be quite a lonely experience that one can feel at the very core, and there are no pills that one can take to manage its persistent, aggravating pain. You wish to take that pain away, but nothing seems to help. I have helped many people work through their grief experiences, including 16 years providing grief therapy to hospice patients and their families.