Anger Management and Counselling in Aurora, ON.

Where is your anger really coming from? Where do you feel it in your body? What sort of rage takes you over and renders you completely out of control? Anger is a complex emotion that is often misunderstood. It is actually a result of profound sadness transformed into a physical and often violent outburst. Working with anger is not just about coping with the events that bring about the response, but digging deep into the cause of the sadness and resultant anger and rushes out of you often unexpectedly. Let's work together to solve this mystery—with the dual goal to lessen the symptoms as well as to find the deeper cause.

My approach to anger management focuses on helping clients understand what’s beneath the anger—not just stopping the reaction. Using CBT, DBT, and trauma-informed strategies, I help clients identify triggers, interrupt automatic responses, and express emotions in healthier, more effective ways. Clients learn practical skills for self-control, communication, and emotional regulation. Over time, they gain clarity, confidence, and the ability to manage conflict without exploding, shutting down, or damaging relationships.

Anger is a powerful emotion that, when not controlled or understood, can get in the way of maintaining and building the relationships that are important to us in our lives. So often under those all-encompassing feelings of anger are other feelings that have been buried - perhaps deeper feelings of sadness. Working on issues of anger in therapy is about building an understanding of what our deeper issues are and of working toward coping with our feelings, resolving our issues, and finding more healthy ways to express ourselves in the world.

Anger, frustration, rage, and reactivity overall, can make a person feel frustrated and powerless; when we have emotional outbursts of any kind they can feel so all-encompassing and make us feel like we are not in control of feelings, thoughts, and behaviours. In working with clients on their emotions I aim to primarily promote an understanding of why our emotional outbursts occur; once this has been established we begin to work on how to manage, mitigate, or change how these outbursts occur, or why we feel the way that we feel in the first place.

Many of us grew up in families where we were told to rate our emotions as positive or negative. Positive emotions were love, joy, and compassion. Negative emotions were sadness, fear, anger, and rage. Unfortunately, anger got placed in the harmful emotion category for many of us, which is not where it belongs. Anger is a helpful emotion that strengthens our resolve to set healthy limits in our relationships. Anger helps us communicate what we need from others. Psychotherapy is a space where you can learn the positive attributes of anger and how to express it positively and safely. Let's get together and explore some of these healthier options for this vital emotion!

Anger is a common emotion that can come easy to us and can feel quite powerful. Our anger can often help us identify when something doesn’t sit right with us, when we feel like our needs are not being met, or like situations pose some level of injustice towards us. However, it is what we do with this anger that can make all the difference in how we cope, experience, and navigate situations. As a therapist, I will never tell you how to express your anger, but rather I will empower you to manage it in a way that fits best for you and your life. Connect with me today for a free consultation to see if we are a good fit.

Anger is one of those big emotions that can be tricky to navigate, especially when you are in the heat of the moment. Difficulty managing anger can sometimes lead to reactions that are hurtful to those that we care about the most. It is important to know that anger is not a bad emotion to experience, we just want to be mindful of how we communicate our anger to ourselves and to others. I hold a non-judgemental and safe space for you to explore your relationship with anger and assist you in working towards displaying anger in a way that is more in line with your preferred way of being. Contact me today to book a free consultation.

DBT can be a game changer for clients wanting to regulate difficult emotions. A comprehensive and integrated model that uses skills training techniques to support individuals in achieving emotion regulation, stress tolerance, achieving mindful practices and improving interpersonal relationships. DBT has initially been proven in the treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), clients at risk of suicidality, and para-suicide behaviours. However, this treatment can also help clients with anxiety, depression, and other presentations that formed roots from invalidating environments.