Anger Management and Counseling in Gunter, TX.

Anger is a normal emotion & is allowed! Underwood Counseling & Consultation, PLLC helps clients to recognize thoughts, feelings, & behaviors that contribute to the expression of anger in both unhealthy & healthy ways. We offer an insightful exploration of emotional management & regulation, skill building, & mindfulness to improve the expression of anger. Underwood Counseling & Consultation, PLLC uses CBT, DBT skills training, ACT, EMDR, & Accelerated Resolution Therapy to improve anger management.

Anger management is a challenging task. It can be a daunting task, but it's not impossible to overcome the root causes behind outbursts and emotional rage. The Bible mentions the word "anger" over 375 times, which highlights the importance of controlling this basic human emotion. However, when left unchecked, it can be highly problematic and life-altering, affecting not only your career but also your family and friends. I am here to help you manage your anger and eliminate its deleterious effects on your life.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Many of my clients arrive to therapy wanting help regulating their emotions. Sometimes they just want to know what feeling they may be experiencing in their body while others may not know how to self-soothe or prevent themselves from experiencing a cycle of irritation, anxiety, anger, and guilt. I help my clients find out what their emotional triggers are, how they can process their emotions in a healthy way, and how to self-soothe.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger Management therapy is a powerful tool for people wanting to understand, explore, and control their anger through channeling healthier alternatives. Much like other emotions, we learn expression of these feelings through what we grew up seeing around us. Anger is particularly challenging because it is viewed as one of the more "acceptable" emotions to feel, however it can also become destructive to us both personally and in our most valued relationships. We will delve into any past experiences that may continue to fuel your anger and work towards self reflection, mindfulness, and awareness of personal triggers to find constructive ways to assertively express difficult emotions.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

We best manage our anger when we approach it from two angles. The first is to examine and change our behavior. There is always a predictive pattern to an anger escalation. Once we learn this and understand this path, we can engage it differently and have an improved outcome. Secondly, for longer term relief, we need to examine how we think and how we can begin to see life differently and get our needs met in healthier ways. Healthy anger is simply the slight boost of energy we feel when we engage something that is not right or is unfair (at least to us!). Learning how to deal with the thoughts and feelings around this will give us more tools and better outcomes.

Very often we look at emotions as good or bad, right or wrong. Anger is a natural part of our emotional experience of life. We experience challenges and frustrations in our daily lives and sometimes it can be difficult to work through the experience with the intensity of anger we may be experiencing. Learning to understand what the anger is about and why it is as intense as it is can help us to move into a new relationship with our anger which allows us to experience it the way we want without guilt or shame.

Struggling with anger can be isolating and overwhelming, but you don't have to navigate this journey alone. We specialize in helping individuals manage their anger in healthy and constructive ways. Through our compassionate and personalized approach, we work together to explore the root causes of your anger, develop coping strategies, and cultivate emotional regulation skills. Our goal is to create a safe and supportive space where you can understand your anger triggers, express yourself authentically, and learn how to respond effectively in challenging situations. You deserve to live a life free from the grip of anger, and we're here to support you every step of the way.

You don't have to be a slave to your anger and your impulses. You can take control of your emotions and behaviors with the right skills. To experience emotion is to be human and each emotion serves a very valuable purpose. You can learn like many others to be in control of your emotions instead of being dominated by them. Regardless of how powerful your emotions are you do not have to be powerless to them.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Anger is really a secondary emotion. Often it is driven by intrapsychic feelings of fear, or frustration, or early life trauma that has been repressed below the level of consciousness. When we experience sudden onset of anger that we cannot fully understand or explain, that can be an indicator that counseling could be of some help. Ungrieved loss, unfinished family business, and unregulated emotions can all lead to anger that is out of control and unmerited for the situation. Family Systems counseling can help clients become more differentiated, more mature and more capable of recognizing the difference between feeling and thinking--leading to better relationships and a more joyous life.