Great Couples Counseling in Lago Vista, TX. Therapy to heal relationships.

When your relationship is hard, it can make everything else hard too. Focusing at work becomes harder, keeping commitments is harder, falling asleep is harder, getting out of bed is harder, remembering to eat, etc. It hurts when there is distance between you and the one you love and you don't know what to do to fix things. I am a couple therapist that specializes in helping couples that want to stay together but are struggling with communication and want help. I can help couples recreate their relationship into one that meets both partners' needs. Email or call me today to get the relationship help you're looking for.

My passion is to help heterosexual couples succeed in their marriages. I work with couples seeking pre-marital counseling, marriage enrichment, help for infidelity trauma/recovery and help for marriages in crisis. I have a biblical world-view and believe that couples can see their marriages transformed if they are willing to hang in there and to change.

Let me guess. One partner feels alone and like they don't matter and the other feels they are always being criticized and can't get anything right. The more one asks for the other to show up, the more the partner disappears physically and emotionally. You both bicker and fight and the idea of sitting and just hanging out seems elusive, if not impossible. Something like this? Often we crave connection but are blocked by the pain and the history that gets in the way. Small fights about little things become battles that highlight our struggle to have our basic relational needs met. I can help you get under the bickering to the parts crying out for connection- to an enriching relationship.

Intimacy. How can we find intimacy in our close relationships when it seems like conflicts just get in the way? Sometimes the conflicts are the stuff of our daily grind--too many hours at work, too many socks on the floor, too many missed opportunities to connect. Sometimes conflicts are fire storms--affairs, addictions, and more. If we learn to manage our conflicts, and listen to the communications with in them, we can deepen intimacy with our partners, our families, friends, and most importantly, with ourselves.

Two individuals from differing backgrounds meet and "fall in love". They begin to notice the relationship is deteriorating instead of being enhanced over time. Feelings are ignored and are not discussed. Soon, two people who should offer support and companionship to each other can't speak without arguing or feeling hurt. Couples go through stages in relationships. In the beginning that time of closeness is cherished, but each individual in the relationship needs growth for themselves as well as to enhance the realtionship. When love starts to erode, it's time to open up communication instead of assuming you know the motives of your partner. Give open dialogue another chance.

Partnering with someone, whether personal or professional, comes with problems to solve, obstacles to overcome and successes to garner. Discovering ways and means of communicating with each other, understanding the point of view of your partner (without giving up your own point of view), getting on the same page regarding the problem to be solved is the aim of couples counseling. Coming to mutually satisfying conclusions is the result.

Couples come in a variety of packages. Some are married, some are dating, some are committed, but with no desire to marry. Regardless of what the package, relationships are the most challenging and rewarding endeavor of the human race. Through relationship we identify our hidden wounds and our deepest fears. We also have access to our greatest emotional connections and the growth of our soul. Counseling is not the last chance for a couple, but the first. www.melissaquiter.com

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Having worked with couples for several years, I find that there are very common themes that pop up. The major issues begin when the communication breaks down. I know the value and have the skills to help restore (or install) healthy communication patterns. Once we have communication in place we are able to focus on the other issues that come up in relationships, including meeting each other's needs, roles, power differentials, financial issues, past baggage, grudges and resentments,roles, extended families or parenting disagreements to name a few. I work hard to create balance in the session so that neither spouse feels constantly picked on, or in the hot seat and I encourage feedback.

Just Mind has 12 trained couples therapists and William Schroeder has completed Level Two of Gottman training. He works with a Gottman trainer and goes to twice monthly supervision to help grow in his implementation of the Gottman method. Gottman therapy is based upon 40 years of couples research in evidence based practices to see what best practices helped thousands of couples to build and grow their relationships.

With couples, I practice Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), which is focused on the reconnection between partners. This approach views attachment, or the loving bond between partners, to be the key element in relationships. When couples argue over various issues, such as money, sex, chores, or important decisions, one or both partners often feels disconnected, unimportant, or insecure with their partner. When we feel our important others are not there for us, we are biologically wired to feel distressed and become anxious and agitated or numb and distant. If we do not reconnect and re-establish our sense of safety with our partner, we can get stuck in rigid, habitual patterns of

Being in a committed relationship can be incredibly rewarding, as well as the most frustrating, disappointing, overwhelming aspects of life. If you're like most couples, you start a fight on one topic and end on a completely different topic, without any resolution. My approach to therapy helps couples identify the underlying patterns of each fight and work to change those patterns, leading to long-term resolution. I use humor, understanding, and confrontation to push clients where they want to go.

For over 15 year I have enjoyed working with couples either married or singles. The time and effort people put into a relationship is worthy of consideration and if trouble, tensions, misunderstanding arise, it's always advantage to take a look at what the problem is and how it began if for no other reason than to learn from the situation so as to not repeat it. I follow John Gottman's philosophy and theory and work actively and vigorously with the couple.

Austin Trauma Therapy Center provides couples counseling on a case by case basis, specifically, if there is childhood trauma impacting the relationship. We work with all couples in a non-judgemental approach to discuss how childhood trauma is impacting their adult relationships. We explore family of origin history to aid in the treatment and communication process.

I am a big believer in emotionally focused therapy (EFT) for couples and relationships. Attachment theory is a powerful frame of reference and one in which couples can learn to attune to their partner's needs and bring greater harmony to the relationship. I work with each partner and then come together to understand the picture as a whole. Through EFT it is entirely possible to bring new understanding to both partners so that they can re-ignite the passion and cut through the frustration of mixed messages and hurt feelings.

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.

Working with couples is a passion for me, because I strongly believe that your significant other-relationship is one of the single-most important factors in your happiness, peace, and mental health. Anytime you spend improving this relationship is a significant investment in your own psyche. While you can get a certain amount of help from books, there is no comparison to having a live, objective person in the room who can change the dynamics, the power-differential, and your insight/awareness. You also get a safe place to express love, practice skills, and receive a break from children and other distractions. You and your partner deserve to invest in the health of your relationship.