Great Couples Counseling in Lago Vista, TX. Therapy to heal relationships.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

For over 15 year I have enjoyed working with couples either married or singles. The time and effort people put into a relationship is worthy of consideration and if trouble, tensions, misunderstanding arise, it's always advantage to take a look at what the problem is and how it began if for no other reason than to learn from the situation so as to not repeat it. I follow John Gottman's philosophy and theory and work actively and vigorously with the couple.

Partnering with someone, whether personal or professional, comes with problems to solve, obstacles to overcome and successes to garner. Discovering ways and means of communicating with each other, understanding the point of view of your partner (without giving up your own point of view), getting on the same page regarding the problem to be solved is the aim of couples counseling. Coming to mutually satisfying conclusions is the result.

With couples, I practice Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), which is focused on the reconnection between partners. This approach views attachment, or the loving bond between partners, to be the key element in relationships. When couples argue over various issues, such as money, sex, chores, or important decisions, one or both partners often feels disconnected, unimportant, or insecure with their partner. When we feel our important others are not there for us, we are biologically wired to feel distressed and become anxious and agitated or numb and distant. If we do not reconnect and re-establish our sense of safety with our partner, we can get stuck in rigid, habitual patterns of

Having worked with couples for several years, I find that there are very common themes that pop up. The major issues begin when the communication breaks down. I know the value and have the skills to help restore (or install) healthy communication patterns. Once we have communication in place we are able to focus on the other issues that come up in relationships, including meeting each other's needs, roles, power differentials, financial issues, past baggage, grudges and resentments,roles, extended families or parenting disagreements to name a few. I work hard to create balance in the session so that neither spouse feels constantly picked on, or in the hot seat and I encourage feedback.

My passion is to help heterosexual couples succeed in their marriages. I work with couples seeking pre-marital counseling, marriage enrichment, help for infidelity trauma/recovery and help for marriages in crisis. I have a biblical world-view and believe that couples can see their marriages transformed if they are willing to hang in there and to change.

When your relationship is hard, it can make everything else hard too. Focusing at work becomes harder, keeping commitments is harder, falling asleep is harder, getting out of bed is harder, remembering to eat, etc. It hurts when there is distance between you and the one you love and you don't know what to do to fix things. I am a couple therapist that specializes in helping couples that want to stay together but are struggling with communication and want help. I can help couples recreate their relationship into one that meets both partners' needs. Email or call me today to get the relationship help you're looking for.

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.

Being in a relationship is hard work. And growing up doesn't often prepare us for the challenges of creating a new family. My approach helps you learn how to communicate better with each other. This often means learning how to be vulnerable. This work isn't easy and it takes time but is so worth it.

I work with many couples seeking to understand where the conflict in the relationship stems from. I am a trained mediator which addresses conflict resolution. Additionally, I am trained in the Gottman Method for couples and emotional focused couples work. I use attachment theory to help couples understand why they react they way they do. I work with couples dealing with infidelity and help to understand and rebuild trust and intimacy within the relationship.

Intimacy. How can we find intimacy in our close relationships when it seems like conflicts just get in the way? Sometimes the conflicts are the stuff of our daily grind--too many hours at work, too many socks on the floor, too many missed opportunities to connect. Sometimes conflicts are fire storms--affairs, addictions, and more. If we learn to manage our conflicts, and listen to the communications with in them, we can deepen intimacy with our partners, our families, friends, and most importantly, with ourselves.

You probably wish your marriage was not so difficult. You might want to learn to communicate without fighting. You may like to rekindle the romance and love you used to have or just have your spouse be more of a support to you. Although every couples situation is different, here are some of the issues that tend to come up which I can help with: -Learn to have better communication skills -Learn to navigate issues with spouse’s family -Learn how to regulate negative emotions and resolve conflicts -Come to agreement on raising children -Address issues of what to spend money on -How to become more intimate with sexual problems -Identify and change unhealthy behavior patterns

Two individuals from differing backgrounds meet and "fall in love". They begin to notice the relationship is deteriorating instead of being enhanced over time.Feelings are ignored and undiscussed. Soon, two people who should offer support and companionship to each other can't speak without agruing or feeling hurt. Couples go through stages in relationships. In the beginning that time of closeness is cherished, but each individual in the relationship needs growth for themselves as well as to enhance the realtionship. When love starts to erode, it's time to open up communication instead of assuming you know the motives of your partner. Give open dialogue another chance.