MEET FERN
I’m Fern Whitfield, RPC, MPCC, a down-to-earth, compassionate therapist specializing in marriage, couples and relationship therapy. I work online with couples throughout British Columbia who are struggling with communication, emotional distance, recurring conflict, intimacy, trust after betrayal, or uncertainty about the future of their relationship.
My approach is warm, practical and non-judgmental. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method to help couples understand the patterns they get caught in, communicate differently, rebuild emotional connection and find their way back to each other.
MARRIAGE & COUPLES THERAPY
Most couples don’t come to therapy because they’ve stopped caring about each other. More often, they’ve become caught in a pattern they don’t know how to get out of.
Maybe every conversation seems to turn into the same argument. One of you pushes to talk while the other shuts down or walks away. You may feel more like roommates than partners, or wonder where the closeness, affection or intimacy went. Perhaps there has been an affair or betrayal and you don’t know whether trust can ever be rebuilt.
In therapy, we slow those patterns down and look underneath the arguments. Instead of deciding who is right or wrong, we begin to understand what happens between you when one or both of you feels hurt, rejected, unheard, unimportant or disconnected.
Emotionally Focused Therapy helps us understand the emotional cycle that keeps couples stuck. The Gottman Method gives us practical tools for communication, conflict and strengthening friendship and connection. Together, these approaches help us work on both the deeper emotional bond and the everyday interactions that shape your relationship.
I also work individually with people who are struggling within their relationships — whether you’re trying to understand what you need, work through relationship pain, or decide what comes next.
I provide online therapy throughout British Columbia through Couples in Therapy.
If your relationship is struggling and you’re wondering whether therapy could help, I offer a free 30-minute consultation. Visit CouplesInTherapy.ca to learn more or book a consultation.