Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger is often one of the greatest tactics the enemy of our soul uses to rob us of our peace and joy. Being quick to take offense is often a sly trick of the enemy, and if we take the bait, we will indeed behave in ways we'll later regret. I use a Christian foundation and a Biblical perspective to help my patients learn how to have peace in a storm and how to take appropriate "time-outs" to help them to respond to a situation versus reacting to it.

Anger can get triggered in situations where you feel disrespected, shamed, rejected, powerless, not heard, not valued, or not safe. My approach for helping clients reduce their anger is to identify past experiences that elicit anger, frustration, fear, shame or other upsetting emotions and negative thoughts now, and then to reprocess those memories with EMDR therapy. I have also helped clients understand why they feel they need to hold on to their anger and then work through the blocks to letting the anger go while still helping them find other ways to feel in control, heard, respected or safe. Note: I do not offer Anger Management classes to meet work or court ordered requirements.

Anger is often a cover for fear or sadness. Underlying most anger is a deeper emotion, one that feels paralyzing or helpless. Since sadness and fear feel weak, but anger feels strong and powerful, many people use anger to deal with depression or anxiety. My approach to anger is twofold: 1), to help you learn techniques on how to manage your anger and deal with people and situations that trigger your anger, and 2) to understand the feelings underlying anger and how to overcome those in order to reduce the amount of anger in the first place. Deciding to get help for your anger is a courageous first step toward improving your quality of life and your relationships.

Anger is a secondary emotion, it never exists in a vacuum. This means that all anger has its source, whether it be unmet needs, frustration, guilt, shame etc. A large part of anger management counseling is uncovering the primary emotion, revealing the source and understanding where the anger is coming from. Often, this knowledge alone is more than half the battle. There are other techniques as well that can help you overcome your anger when you feel like you're going to "flip your lid."

Getting angry is a natural emotion, one that is sometimes hard to control, but often unhelpful. Do you find that you go from 0-100 in the blink of an eye? Well, you're not alone. When angry, it's challenging to see and think clearly. I can help you slow this "blink of an eye" down so you can better manage your anger and angry reactions. I will teach you how to identify your triggers, examine your "anger chain of actions" and develop strategies to help you feel more in control of the situation and able to think and see clearly even in the most strenuous of times.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.