Anger Management and Counseling in Linda, CA.

Anger is never a first feeling, something always precedes it. After hearing what makes you angry, we search to find out what the first feeling might have been. Often it is fear or hurt. When we know the source it is much easier to address the rage/frustration. I teach my clients how to express strong feelings without blowing up. There is hope for you.

Anger is a powerful. It is emotional AND it's an energy we feel strongly in our bodies. The feeling of anger can often tell us that something isn't right in the current moment. It may also be the result of unmet childhood needs that culminated in feelings of anger for you as a young boy or girl. When unaddressed, this anger continues into adulthood. There are many ways that anger can be addressed - through changing thoughts & beliefs, circumstances, relationships, jobs, etc. or with meditation, forgiveness, visualization, calming the nervous system & rewiring the brain. Clients can also learn to express feelings & needs & utilize healthy communication skills in their relationships.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Anger is one of our fundamental emotions, part of the basic machinery of our mind and personality. In some ways it is a useful tool that helps to motivate and energize us in seeking fairness and justice in the world around us. But this powerful hold-over from our primal history can also be enormously destructive if we lose control of it. If your anger is slipping out of your control and you find yourself saying or doing things that damage your reputation or your relationships, hurt those around you, or otherwise consistently put you on the outside of society's expectations for behavior, you need help to find tools or strategies to change this and I would be happy to help.