Anger Management and Counseling in Santa Clara, CA.

ANGER....something that we all have negative (if not traumatic) experience with. We are taught from a young age that it is no o.k. to feel or express anger. Unfortunately, simply because we ignore or suppress does not mean that it disappears. If left unacknowledged, it remains in our minds, hearts, and bodies. Further, the inappropriate expression of (or LACK of healthy expression) can cause severe damage to our most cherished relationships. Therapy is the ideal place for articulating, as well as learning how to effectively express, our anger. Remember, anger is only an internal alarm system telling us that something needs attention. It's what we do with it that matters.

Here at My True Temperament Christian Counseling, LLC, we teach anger management skills through the lens of the Bible and also teach better communication skills and relaxation techniques. Anger is a natural emotion which more often than not is a signal that something in the client's environment isn't working. We discuss with the client what upsets him/her and we try and eliminate it. During the anger management therapeutic process, we remind all our clients about the importance of keeping a sense of humor.

I help people struggling with anger management by working with them to develop awareness of their anger experience in their body and mind and how it is impacting their body. I help you learn and practice strategies for regulating your body and mind so you do not lose control of the anger. I help you to learn healthy communication of anger, and the development of conflict resolution skills. I support you in exploring issues of transference from past relationships and experiences that may be contributing to your strong feelings of anger in present circumstances and relationships. We create safety, increase positive expression of anger, and reduce or eliminate sources of anger when possible!

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

Anger can, especially be, a difficult problem for men. Most men are not able to easily identify their emotions nor describe them in words. Men have enormous difficult feeling the subtlety of their anger. They often feel nothing or rage. Healthy anger management requires us to be aware of how we are feeling. We also need to calm ourselves down, in other words - regulate our feelings. Using Affect Management Skills Training, you will have the opportunity to learn how to apply the basic skills to become the person you hope to be. When we are able to regulate our feelings in a healthy way, our relationships change.