Anger Management and Counseling in Santa Monica, CA.

I have helped many clients with anger issues, by helping them to see--and work through--the deep sadness that lies underneath chronic excessive anger. Rage can arise from humiliations, from feeling cheated by others, from shame, and from loss. Whatever the main source, anger can be a less-unpleasant substitute for the helplessness that these experiences bring with them. Clients benefit when they are able to replace the move-into-rage with a sober curiosity about just what is going on inside and outside at that moment.

Anger is a feeling that carries information. Anger alerts us to the awareness that we feel threatened in some way. People often get angry because they are in emotional pain. However, showing someone that you are in pain is a more effective way to help others feel remorse for what they did than raging at them. Emotionally intense young adults do not have to destroy any more relationships with "over the top" reactions! There are more effective ways of responding. I can teach these young people simple relaxation and awareness exercises that allow them to tame their anger.

While there are thousands of techniques to manage anger, understanding and resolving the source of the anger is imperative. Anger is never a primary emotion. Typically anger is a secondary response to feelings of hurt. A person's feelings are hurt then, perhaps because he or she hasn't learned how do deal with feelings of hurt effectively, those feelings manifest as anger. The more unexpressed hurt held inside, the more anger you feel. Anger stems from feeling unjustly treated and yet when anger is not managed, people still fail to understand and empathize with you. We can work to get to the source of the anger and help you to improve your relationship with self and others. Feel free to call my o....

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

I have a great deal of experience working with anger issues and domestic violence situations. DV is especially important to address because of the reaction of the children pulled into this dynamic. Cognitive Behavioral methods are taught which are easy to implement. We will look for the source of anger and find different redirected behaviors to replace anger. Mindfullness and various relaxation methods will be discussed. However, you will have input and final say in setting goals and in laying out our approaches to dealing with anger. We work together as equals, without judment.

When having feelings of anger, it can come in all different forms depending on the individual. Therapy can help with managing that anger in order to maintain healthy relationships within ones self and with others around you. Therapy will help with providing ways to identity where the anger is stemmed from and how to decrease and eliminate it from your life in order to live a healthy and happy life.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is a common issue when you were raised by someone who was angry or you have trauma that causes your fear and anger to be easily triggered. I help you determine the root causes of your anger and treat both the symptom of anger and the root cause to maximize your success at overcoming anger! I also use proven anger management techniques in addition to holistic treatments for trauma, relationship problems, parenting, etc. I offer an individualized, holistic and creative approach to working with your anger issues. Call me! I can help!