Great Couples Counseling in Yucaipa, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

I have had years of experience working with couples resolve conflict and find more fulfilling ways of interacting with each other. Couple counseling can be for improving relationships or for finding ways to end a relationship that is detrimental to either party. I can help couples find areas of agreement , and become more assertive and open with each other while learning how to have a richer more fulfilling relationship. The goal for couple counseling will be what each partner want out of the therapy.

Let me guess. One partner feels alone and like they don't matter and the other feels they are always being criticized and can't get anything right. The more one asks for the other to show up, the more the partner disappears physically and emotionally. You both bicker and fight and the idea of sitting and just hanging out seems elusive, if not impossible. Something like this? Often we crave connection but are blocked by the pain and the history that gets in the way. Small fights about little things become battles that highlight our struggle to have our basic relational needs met. I can help you get under the bickering to the parts crying out for connection- to an enriching relationship.

So much of having a successful long-term intimate relationship is dependent on healthy communication, awareness of one's own wounds & issues and skills & tools to address relationship difficulties. I sometimes tell people. What's one of the most complex things on earth? Rocket science, right? Well . . . an intimate relationship between two people is MORE complex than rocket science because it covers many of the sciences - psychology, sociology, biology, neurology, anthopology, chemistry and probably others as well. As a therapist, I take a multi-faceted approach to working with couples that pulls from each of these sciences:)

Why do we seem to have the same arguments over and over again? How do I know if we are really supposed to be together? Are there things we could be doing to better support each other, to help each other grow and be our best selves? If we really love each other, why do we so often hurt each other? How do I know if this is real love, anyway? Relationships are hard. Even more than desire, they require effort and understanding to make them work. Often, even if two people really love each other, one or both may need help to maintain the right effort or understanding to keep the balance necessary for long-term success. Having outside, objective support can make all the difference.