Anger Management and Counseling in Denver, CO.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Anger management is about impulse control. I can help you learn to experience and explore your angry and violent impulses without ACTING off of them. Angry feelings flow naturally from a great many life situations (e.g. competition, losses, personal violations, insults, dismissals, etc.). We usually do not recognize that our old unfinished business is behind our aggressive temper and behavior. I can help you identify your personal triggers, move away from the person who is setting you off in the moment, and work on your infinished business in private healthy ways.

I can help you with your anger and resentment towards your spouse or partner, towards your children or parents, and with other significant individuals in your life. I will help give you an internal thermometer for understanding your anger and what level of anger is building inside of you. I will help you to discover the true cause of your anger, provides steps for coping with your anger, and create solutions for the problems in your life and relationships.

Do you get so angry sometimes that you end up doing or saying things you wish you could take back? Do you feel like you are stuck in a rut, with angry responses becoming the most common way you react to people you love? We all feel angry sometimes, but it's great to realize when it's affecting your life in ways you never wanted. We will help you learn to expand the feelings you have, sort through any shame or helplessness that are driving the anger, and teach you how you can use your normal angry feelings in ways that are productive. You don't have to feel like anger owns you any more.

Anger can come from a few different things; your boundaries aren't being respected, a catalyzing energy telling you that things need to change, or old wounds from childhood getting touched by current interactions with others. Anger is a signal to you to reclaim your personal power; a fire giving you the fuel you need to create change. I'm here to help you get to the root of the anger and to self-regulate through anger and other difficult emotions, so you can show up as more calm and grounded in your life.

Our counselors strive to combine time-tested therapeutic techniques with the latest in psychotherapy research to provide you with the best and most effective anger management techniques available. We have several counselors on staff to ensure that you will always be able to access someone who specializes in your needs without waiting. Do you know what it will take to achieve your optimal life? If not, it's okay, we're here to help. (970) 227-2770