Anger Management and Counseling in Downers Grove, IL.

I support individuals with anger difficulties through empathy/emotion-coaching, as well as teaching them tools and strategies to manage their anger and frustrations. While decreasing and managing anger, we are able to take a deeper look into the individual. I am able to guide them via talk therapy to enable And empower them to help themselves while achieving new insights.

Anger is a normal human emotion that we all experience. The way we express anger can be what distinguishes us as being healthy or unhealthy partners, parents, co-workers, employees or managers. Anger is generally a surface emotion. Beneath it lies another strong emotion, usually sadness, hurt, fear or inadequacy. In our efforts to protect ourselves from being vulnerable we often act out in anger, which generally takes us farther away from our true goals. In my work with you I will help you understand your anger in a different way and provide you with techniques and coping skills to manage this strong emotion moving you closer to your ultimate goals and strengthening your relationships.

I view anger not as something to fear or suppress, but as a powerful and often protective emotion that holds important truths. In therapy, we’ll create a safe, nonjudgmental space to explore what your anger may be guarding—pain, hurt, boundaries, or unmet needs. Together, we’ll gently untangle the layers beneath it, helping you understand its roots and learn how to express it in ways that bring clarity, healing, and connection. Your anger deserves to be heard with compassion.

Seeking therapy for your anger can help in many ways. When seeing a therapist for anger you will most likely start by recognizing areas in your life that make you angry. You will then process how you respond to these instances. Your therapist will then guide you in understanding the outcomes in how you respond and it's affects on yourself and others. You will gain new insight as to where your anger stems from, as well as healthier ways to respond to that anger. Seeking therapy for anger can help you cope better with situations in life, have more positive outcomes in conflict and even work through traumatic situations or unprocessed grief that may be the result of anger.

Clients seeking support for anger management will find a nonjudgmental space to understand what’s behind their anger and how it shows up in daily life. Together, we’ll explore triggers, identify underlying emotions, and develop practical strategies to respond rather than react. The goal isn’t to get rid of anger—but to learn how to express it in healthier, more constructive ways that support your relationships, goals, and overall well-being.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger is so much more than just anger. Under Anger there are a lot of deeper feelings that have usually gone repressed or unvalidated. The first step in working with anger is addressing those underlying thoughts and feelings to get to the root of the anger. We'll find new ways to cope with life's stressors and incorporate new ways of interacting with others.

I use a pyscho educational approach with working with anger management. In that I teach about anger being a secondary emotion that often protects hurt and fear. We go through the anger cycle and ways to change that cycle. The goal is help clients move from destructive behaviors to constructive communication and behaviors. A typical anger management process takes four to six sessions.

Anger management is an important skill to master in our ever changing world, which brings increasing amounts of stress into our lives. I would utilize two tools: discussing an individual's background to discover possible causes for the behavior, and teaching positive approaches toward stressors. I have assisted both individuals and couples with anger management issues.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.