Anger Management and Counseling in Round Lake Heights, IL.

Anger is a normal human emotion that we all experience. The way we express anger can be what distinguishes us as being healthy or unhealthy partners, parents, co-workers, employees or managers. Anger is generally a surface emotion. Beneath it lies another strong emotion, usually sadness, hurt, fear or inadequacy. In our efforts to protect ourselves from being vulnerable we often act out in anger, which generally takes us farther away from our true goals. In my work with you I will help you understand your anger in a different way and provide you with techniques and coping skills to manage this strong emotion moving you closer to your ultimate goals and strengthening your relationships.

Often challenges that complicate our lives also gives us opportunity to grow. Perhaps we're faced with marital or family problems, or job dissatisfaction. Or, you've had difficulty expressing anger.These struggles may indicate deeper issues, limiting beliefs and emotional wounds we harbor from the past. With William Edleman's help, you can alter self-destructive patterns of behavior and make positive , lasting improvements in your life. You can break free from your distrust of others and learn to act more effectively, feeling more whole and more self -empowered.

We look at anger as a secondary emotion. It is very easy to characterize a person as "angry" and not explore where the reaction or response truly stems from. Our approach is to provide healing at the root. We explore what other emotions may be operating, so that we can address what has really provoked a negative response. We also try to find ways to replace the thoughts that evoke an angered response with something that helps our clients feel more in control.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

If after getting a flat tire, you think and continue to say to yourself: "This sucks"…This is terrible"…"Why does this always happen to me?"…"I can’t stand it"… anger will be the likely emotional response. And if you typically think in a negative way, then you will likely be more prone to psychological and physical difficulties like anger, poor relationships, stroke and heart disease.On the other hand, someone who thinks to himself "I’m glad that I have a spare tire"…"I can handle this"…"This is a hassle, not a horror", will react in a more realistic manner. Cognitive behavioral therapy can help you learn how to cope more effectively with life's challenges and lead a happier life.

I use a pyscho educational approach with working with anger management. In that I teach about anger being a secondary emotion that often protects hurt and fear. We go through the anger cycle and ways to change that cycle. The goal is help clients move from destructive behaviors to constructive communication and behaviors. A typical anger management process takes four to six sessions.

Is your child out of control? Are there holes in your walls, broken items, lots of tantrums, or siblings getting hurt in your home? Let me help! I specialize in working with youth aged 3-25. I can help you identify from where these behaviors are coming and strategize to help make your home more peaceful and your child less stressed. Sometimes, self-harm behavior is also a symptom of anger, but directed at oneself. Kids behaviors are typically goal oriented, and it's the adults' job to decipher the kid code! Give me a call for a free consultation, and if I'm not the right match for you, I'll send you somewhere nearby that may be a better resource!

Is your temper raging “out of control”? Do small things set you off? Do you react with sudden outbursts, flinging insults? Or, do you retreat in silent rage? Do you often feel your anger is justified, but upon reflection, regret your behavior? Or, do you find yourself locked in constant battle with people closest to you and those you love? Anger is a natural emotion, but unregulated anger can be destructive. It takes a toll on the individual and those around him or her, eroding self-esteem, wreaking havoc, and perpetuating feelings of disconnection, isolation and even loneliness. We can help you manage angry outbursts, understand your anger’s origins including unknown, underlying painful emotions, identify healthy coping strategies, channel your anger...(view profile to read more)

Anger is not bad by itself. Getting adrenaline drunk though, can give you power at the time, but can also be destructive. Other types of anger may be hidden from view, but slowly eat away at your happiness. I can help you find your triggers, understand how they affect you, and work with you to develop coping tools to both prevent and recover from the stress hormones that accompany anger.