Anger Management and Counseling in Belle Plaine, MN.

Anger becomes a habitual way of responding to frustration and stress in life. It can become particularly harmful for our relationships with others, whether that be in our romantic relationships, in our families, or in the workplace. Unfortunately, our society tends to reinforce aggressive ways of handling relationship difficulties and the general frustrations of life. Expressing impatience, frustration, and anger have become all too common as acceptable modes of handling conflict. Overcoming patterns of anger requires honest self–appraisal and a deep commitment to treating others with respect at all times using more respectful skills of effective assertiveness.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

I prefer the term trigger management. Anger stems from frustration, hurt, annoyance and disappointment. We will work together to control your feelings and actions that may have been getting you in trouble at school, home, the community or at work. Recognizing your triggers can help use appropriate ways to reach goals and solve problems. You can overcome those outbursts and lead the life you desire.

Narcissistic Abuse is real. This can occur in any type of relationship. Victims often feel they are 'walking on eggshells', investing high level energy into making the other person happy. Victims, perhaps you, often report feeling like what they do is never good enough. You might devote so much into appeasing the other, only to be met with anger and harshness. You have turned yourself into every pretzel shape and have been met with the same negative response. You might feel like you do not even know who you are or what you like. You feel so alone. I want you to know that I see you and I hear you. I can help.

Oftentimes, at the core of difficulties with managing or controlling our emotional responses is a feeling of powerlessness. And, maybe we've learned over time that expressing our feelings angrily is our best way to quickly influence our world and other people. And it doesn't ever work well, at least not for the long term. Learn how to identify and to use your real power, and stop wasting your time and destroying your relationships with ineffective tools. Become the steady, wise and intentional person you've always wanted to be, and earn the respect and acceptance from others you've always wanted.