Grief and Loss Counseling in West Amwell, NJ.

Grief is the result of any type of loss that we may experience from death to divorce, to the loss of a job or the end of a relationship, to the death of a pet. It leaves us with a broken heart. The more significant the relationship to the loss, the deeper the pain and wound. Genuine care and support are not always enough. I offer grief and loss counseling tools along with the healing actions of new coping skills to bring vitality and hope back into the life of someone who is in pain. Your loss can never be replaced however it can be healed so your life can again be fulfilling and happy.

My philosophy of therapy and change is that change comes from within. As a therapist, I ask a great deal in asking an individual to change, as change is an incredibly difficult task for everyone. The journey of change requires both the client and myself to work collaboratively throughout this journey. It is for this reason that the rapport between the client and myself is critical. I aim to provide all my clients with the space to explore their underlying feelings, thoughts, and behaviors so that they can engage in change.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Experiencing the loss of a loved one is a traumatic event in one's life. The hardest day is often the day after the memorial service or funeral. Grief is a natural reaction to loss that for some is a long journey towards healing. It can be lonely and overwhelming. With patience, understanding, and support, I will accompany you on that journey. As one who was widowed at an early age and experienced significant loss in my own life, I understand and can empathize with your experience and can provide the professional guidance and reassurance you may need to heal.

When you have experienced a loss, you need a safe space in which to process complex feelings. My aim is to provide this safe space for you as you cope with the complicated feelings that accompany grief. I will also work to help you build skills for coping adaptively with the situation. I will support throughout the process as you heal and recover.

Relationship endings are a guaranteed part of life that everyone experiences. When a relationship concludes – whether through death, divorce or some other reason – it is common to review it, examine it and even wish that something about it was different. Perhaps we regret something we said or longed to hear something from the other person. Endings are accompanied by conclusions to our hopes and dreams for the future. My approach to working with grieving clients is to permit them fully feel their loss and to process their grief in their own way and at their own pace. When it comes to grieving clients I will join with them in their loss and will encouraging them to feel all the feelings that surface about the person and the relationship they shared.

Grief counseling helps people cope with grief and mourning following the loss of a loved one or due to major life changes that trigger feelings of grief (i.e. job loss or divorce). It provides a space for individuals to work through and process the complex emotions surrounding loss. Healthy grieving results in remembering the loss with a newfound sense of peace, rather than searing pain.

Grief and loss can be sudden or expected, as when a loved one passes from an accident or from a long standing illness. Grief and loss can also be felt when relationships end, or when major life changes occur. Perceived failures and unmet expectations can also cause feelings of grief and loss. Understanding and processing these events can help to reduce the effects of trauma, depression, anxiety, and self-doubt that can stem from grief and loss.

EMDR allows clients to remember emotional pain and loss without suffering the intense negative feelings that go along with it. In doing so, clients can begin to heal, move on, and even remember some great memories lost in all the pain. Traditional talk therapy helps normalize the various interlapping stages of grief. I also help clients re-evaluate their relationships that so often change as a result of loss.

We all have experienced loss in our lives. Learning how to deal with those losses and heal from them can often take time. We live in a grief light society. I can help you to set aside time to focus on your feelings and allow yourself to heal. Let me walk with you as you embrace the future with hope and expectancy for good things to come. God's grace is available for the journey.