Anger Management and Counseling in Elma, NY.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

There are so many reasons why people struggle with anger. One of them is the general opinion that anger is bad. For that reason, many of us are not taught how to properly express it. Anger is just a feeling. It's what we do with that feeling that determines whether it's good or bad. I help people to recognize their anger and learn effective ways to calm themselves down, cope with their feelings, and communicate them in a safe, appropriate and beneficial way.

I see a difference between "anger" and "rage." Anger comes when two people see things differently and one feels he or she has to "win" or to convince the therapist. My approach of "intersubjectivity" guards against this. Each person has a subjective way of perceiving something that intersects with the other person's subjective way of perceiving the same "something," but the key is that when we understand the hows and the whys of how each sees things the way they do, there is room for empathy for the others perspective without feeling one is losing some sort of status. On the other hand, "rage" comes from shame and involves the wish to obliterate some aspect of the other person.

Has anger overtaken your ability to function effectively in your daily life? Do others shy away from you in fear of your next outburst? Has your relationship with significant others become so volatile that the love is being overshadowed by your anger? It is possible to learn tools and strategies to combat these negative actions and begin to respond more appropriately to situations that previously sent you over the edge.

Often times when someone has issues with anger along comes with that problems created by that anger. As your therapist, I will assist you in learning ways to not only control your anger, but help you determine the cause of your anger and work to resolve it. I will also work with you to repair relationships with family and friends whenever possible.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.