Great Couples Counseling in Arcade, NY. Therapy to heal relationships.

Relationships can be complicated. You may be struggling with a particular issue and not know how to approach it with your partner. Or you may feel like you're repeating the same patterns over and over. Perhaps your partner experienced a traumatic event and you want to be supportive, but aren't sure what to do to help. Maybe you are just having a hard time talking to each other and getting along. Couples therapy can help! We provide a comfortable and open place to discuss your concerns, feelings and goals. We help couples gain a deeper understanding of themselves and their issues, and work collaboratively with them to build effective communication skills, reduce conflict, and promote growth.

Communication, consent, and compassion are essential components in healthy relationships. When working with couples it is my goal to support you and your partner to grow. My therapeutic style is informed by the Gottman approach, which focuses on developing an understanding of patterns in relationships. This process supports individuals in managing their emotions and responses in order to be able to improve communication and build a more satisfying relationship with your partner. In the couples therapy process, I work to understand you as individuals and as a couple, we identify goals and challenges in order to support you as partners in working together. All couples are welcome.

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.

I use the Gottman Method of couples counseling for couples, whether you're partners or married, this approach has been backed by 40 years of research to be successful. It includes an extensive intake process since each couple is unique, a feedback session, and from there specified exercises and tools to target the areas of your relationship that can be improved.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Objectivity can help level the playing field, especially when a couple is struggling to get it right! Couples find the spark again through empathy, great communication, and allowing a co-pilot to be a guiding light through troubled times. I use a series of approaches to help reach your goals of reduced dysfunction in your relationship which include cognitive behavioral, person centered, and solution focused methods.

Being able to work with couples, it would be important to find ways to discuss individual concerns, as well as how individual concerns affect the couple as a whole. When working with each of the individuals and as the couple, I would work to be able to use DBT and Art Therapy to work on being able to practice helpful skills such as emotion regulation, frustration tolerance, mindfulness and communication and how each person can express themselves when working together

I feel that in order for a couple to succeed in their relationship, there must be mutual respect and open communication. The vows "Love, Honor and Chrerish" and imperative in creating a loving and positive relationship that will overcome life's obstacles. It is my role to help you learn and foster these tools to incorporate them into your daily lives.

One main focus for couple therapy is making sure both individuals feel heard and comfortable sharing feelings with their partner as well as the therapist. Identifying each other's triggers and learning how to help each other when triggered could have a positive impact on communication and the relationship. I have some experience working with couples and continue to expand my education in this area through supervision.