Great Couples Counseling in Oyster Bay Cove, NY. Therapy to heal relationships.

Combining the knowledge and wisdom of forty years of studies and clinical practice, Gottman Method Couples Therapy helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy in their relationships. Through research-based interventions and exercises, it is a structured, goal-oriented, scientifically-based therapy. Intervention strategies are based upon empirical data from Dr. Gottman’s study of more than 4,000 couples. This research shows what actually works to help couples achieve a long-term healthy relationship. Gottman Method Couples Therapy was developed out of this research to help partners: Increase: respect, affection, closeness, & break through.

You know relationships are meant to offer love and care...Yet your connections are rimmed with insecurity, worry, doubt and a feeling of instability. You're not sure if there's something about way you interact in relationships or if it's related to the people you're around. Research proves that the biggest predictor of a happy, long life is the quality of relationships you're in. You're ready to clear the fog, and build solid connections.

Why do we seem to have the same arguments over and over again? How do I know if we are really supposed to be together? Are there things we could be doing to better support each other, to help each other grow and be our best selves? If we really love each other, why do we so often hurt each other? How do I know if this is real love, anyway? Relationships are hard. Even more than desire, they require effort and understanding to make them work. Often, even if two people really love each other, one or both may need help to maintain the right effort or understanding to keep the balance necessary for long-term success. Having outside, objective support can make all the difference.

Working with couples individually/collaboratively without blame or shame, assisting partners in understanding their role in the conflict, has been a primary focus of my 30+ years of clinical practice. I teach couples that there is no right way to live.The framework and ingredients are defined by each person in the relationship. Connection, not control, engagement, not enmeshment allow for ongoing individual growth and relationship capacity. Personal awareness, acknowledgement, new attitudes and behavioral action all contribute to building a bridge between partners. I assist my clients as they look to themselves not the other to create ongoing growth, capacity and fulfillment of commitment.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Drawing close in intimacy in a couple can be challenging. Being close to another person can result in buttons getting pushed in areas of the self that were never resolved. Despite the challenge, we deeply want to feel intimacy in life. Intimacy in relationship, while often challenging, is one of the greatest opportunities for growth. Caring, compassionate communication between partners opens each person to deeper feeling, connection, and expression. These capacities are crucial for a fulfilled life. I help you learn genuine communication expressing your needs while respecting and caring for your partner. These fulfilling communications lead to a better relationship and a better life.

Couples go through rough patches in their relationships. It is my ultimate goal and mission to help them strengthen their relationships. This can be accomplished by demonstrating them better communication techniques, improving trust within the relationship, how to cope with stress together, establishing boundaries, improving intimacy, and teaching them to work as a unit. In addition, I help the couples to work through major issues that can salvage the relationship as well.

You don’t even know how long it’s been since you and your partner felt connected. Life has gotten so crazy that prioritizing togetherness falls straight to the bottom of your mental to-do list. You know you are ‘all in’. You are fully committed and want this to work. It’s just that, when the same old problems and arguments come up you start to wonder, “Why am I doing this? Is it over?” Maybe there is a crisis, you’ve been unfaithful or you discovered that your partner was, how do you pick up the pieces? How can you possibly move on? I'm here to tell you, its possible to heal. It's possible to have the life you truly want.

Relationships with important others bring great fulfillment to our lives. Couples counseling is designed to teach skills in communication and respectful negotiation, while building honesty and intimacy. As a New York State Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I am a specialist in all aspects of couples and relationship counseling. Premarital counseling is also a great investment in the future for engaged couples.

Couples are my passion! When was the last time you had an open conversation with your partner about sex? About emotional intimacy? About communication? We look at the negative cycle that has swallowed you both up, causing stress and disconnection. I am also an affair specialist and have worked with countless couples to sift through the incredible pain to see if there is anything left of the relationship to be salvaged (in many cases, there is). I have met many couples who come in as roommates, where deep wounds are present. Couples feel like my office is a safe place to share, connect, get questions answered and get the professional help that they have needed.

Couples can be premarital, marital, same sex, transgender, lesbian or gay. Couples can be sexually involved, emotionally involved, or both. I love working with couples of all types! There are many themes that occur with couples that can cause problems, such as money, power, sexuality, children (if there are any), in-laws/family, friends, values, etc. I am experienced in working with couples of all kinds and helping you create better communication and intimacy. When you are in therapy, you will feel heard and respected in a way that you may not be able to feel without a facilitator. I will make sure that each of you have a forum to express yourselves respectfully.

Working with couples, married or not, is an endeavor that I approach with great care. There seem to be certain themes that arise over and over again, so much so, that these issues demand to be recognized. I am always on the look-out for one partner who feels invisible or taken for granted by the person they have chosen to couple with. Expectations at the beginning of relationships tend to be dazzling and are usually based on hopeful fantasy. What can go wrong is that those expectations turn out to be dashed when two people start to get to know each other in a deeper way. In counseling, I strive to get couples to embrace each other's imperfections and to see each other realistically.

Communication and respect are often considered the cornerstones of a fruitful relationship. However, often times couples loose sight of the things that initially brought them together. Spending hours talking to and listening to their significant other, date nights, movie nights and outings with friends and family. These treasures often get pushed aside when the reality of life gets set in motion. I work with couples in clearly defining the goals and objectives of their relationships, addressing challenging misconceptions, infidelity, family and work related issues. Couples who work hard and develop clear goals often reap the benefits of better communication, intimacy and love.