Grief and Loss Counseling in Oakdale, NY.

Grief and loss can be triggered by many things; the death of a loved one, the loss of a beloved mate, being let go at a valued job, and many others. When we cannot get over the loss by ourselves, a therapist point us down new roads. Suddenly vistas of possibility begin to open up, and what once seemed hopelessly sad begins to take on its proper importance.

Grief and loss are the tragic feelings in life that can come on suddenly - from a shocking loss, or be long term, from a loss that occurred in the past or one that is ongoing. We never know how to handle the all-encompassing feelings experienced at this time, and we never think it will end. I will help guide you through these terrible times you might be experiencing by allowing you to fully express your feelings when you need to. At other times you may need guidance on how to just get through the day. As with all my clients, you will show me what you need at each moment, and I will do my best to get you through the pain of grief and loss.

Grief and loss is, unfortunately, a normal part of living. There is no single "correct" way to grieve: different cultures and even individuals from the same culture grieve differently. The only consistent feature is that grief takes time. The most effective thing anyone can do for someone grieving is to be there—to listen, to empathize, to walk along with the grief. There is no "fixing" grief. But counseling can help prevent normal grief from developing into major depression or other mental health conditions.

Each person has their own way of coping with loss, whether it be the death of a family member or friend, or loss of a marriage or relationship. There are so many factors that play into how loss effects us, including but not limited to; the manor in which the loss occurred ( i.e. long term illness, sudden unexpected death), the relationship (i.e. parent, sibling, child), the quality of relationship (I.e. healthy and close, distanced and strained), and how you and your family of origin have dealt with loss in the past. I have been successfully helping clients gain the insight and tools to cope with their grief and loss throughout my entire career.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I provide superior counseling and therapy services for those who have experienced a traumatic loss in their life. This does not have to be just a loss or grief from death, but also of that of a relationship (per se through a break-up or divorce.) I enable the client to work at their own pace as far as recovery goes, and take it one session at a time. I allow them to grieve naturally, but also take the approach that will lead them to cope better with loss, through communication and other means- My goal will ultimately be to lead them to sanctuary and enable them to move forward with their life- while strategically allowing time to heal their wounds.