Anger Management and Counseling in Gholson, TX.

In anger management, my primary focus is on instructing the client in breaking the often long-standing patterns of poor communication skills. They will benefit by learning appropriate assertiveness skills, rather than remaining in aggressive or passive types of communication responses. I define assertiveness as communicating in an honest, but respectful way. Clients will also benefit from learning anger principles such as "triggers", which are the people or situations that trigger their inappropriate anger reactions. I use role playing and "homework" assignments for them to practice improved communication. A helpful tool that I teach is simple, but effective -- "Stop and Think".

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Anger is a powerful emotion. Sometimes it is secondary to other emotions that are more uncomfortable to acknowledge than the anger. Anger can lead one to do things later regretted. Anger can also come with many "tabu's" attached; which further impede the healthy expression of anger. There are times when anger can be harnessed as the fuel to drive positive change. In counseling you can learn to stop the unhealthy and destructive expression of anger. You can lean to unchain yourself from the "Tabu" messages attached to anger. You can learn to harness the power in anger for healthy and constructive uses to fuel positive changes.

Whatever the issue, road rage, workplace frustration, interpersonal relationships, let me help you work through your anger. I utilize a combination of Mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. The goal is to help you first recognize your anger as it manifests in your body, and then as you relax think through what your triggers are and how to keep your emotions from getting out of control. I look forward to hearing for you.