Anger Management and Counseling in Hubbard, TX.

In anger management, my primary focus is on instructing the client in breaking the often long-standing patterns of poor communication skills. They will benefit by learning appropriate assertiveness skills, rather than remaining in aggressive or passive types of communication responses. I define assertiveness as communicating in an honest, but respectful way. Clients will also benefit from learning anger principles such as "triggers", which are the people or situations that trigger their inappropriate anger reactions. I use role playing and "homework" assignments for them to practice improved communication. A helpful tool that I teach is simple, but effective -- "Stop and Think".

Very often we look at emotions as good or bad, right or wrong. Anger is a natural part of our emotional experience of life. We experience challenges and frustrations in our daily lives and sometimes it can be difficult to work through the experience with the intensity of anger we may be experiencing. Learning to understand what the anger is about and why it is as intense as it is can help us to move into a new relationship with our anger which allows us to experience it the way we want without guilt or shame.

My approach revolves around helping clients gain a deep understanding of the root causes and triggers of their anger. I provide a supportive and non-judgmental space where clients can explore their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors associated with anger. Through evidence-based techniques and strategies, clients will benefit by learning healthier ways to express and manage their anger, enhancing their communication skills, and ultimately regaining control over their reactions.

Anger is a powerful emotion. Sometimes it is secondary to other emotions that are more uncomfortable to acknowledge than the anger. Anger can lead one to do things later regretted. Anger can also come with many "tabu's" attached; which further impede the healthy expression of anger. There are times when anger can be harnessed as the fuel to drive positive change. In counseling you can learn to stop the unhealthy and destructive expression of anger. You can lean to unchain yourself from the "Tabu" messages attached to anger. You can learn to harness the power in anger for healthy and constructive uses to fuel positive changes.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Edith utilizes the What's Good About Anger? curriculum to help clients recognize their anger and to develop and apply skills and abilities to respond to anger in a healthy and socially appropriate manner. Anger management topics include anger awareness, cognitive distortions and irrational beliefs, stress management, problem-solving, assertive communication, managing conflict, forgiveness, applying a time-out, emotional intelligence and empathy, building successful relationships, choosing behavior alternatives, preventing and interrupting aggression, accepting responsibility, and facing consequences. Self-initiated and court-ordered clients are welcome!