Great Couples Counseling in El Lago, TX. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couples therapy allows two people to come together in a different space - the therapy room - to talk about issues, problems, concerns and successes in a new and more beneficial way. Communication is a key concept for me in the therapy room, along with the processes that support our communication. As a couple's therapist, I will listen to the words and phrases that you use with one another, invite you to consider even a slightly different way of presenting your feelings and thoughts in order to be heard differently. I will work with each person in the couple to assure that they feel heard and understood, hopefully deepening your understanding of your partner.

My approach to helping couples includes an exploration of patterns of communication and whether interactions are considered healthy or unhealthy. Each partner's family of origin would be explored as well as their perspectives on issues within the relationship. I therapeutic approach utilizes the empirically based Gottman Method. The Gottman Method encompasses 40+ years of research on couples and what makes them successful.

“Stop trying to change me!” The complaint often targeted at a partner during a heated discussion. My response, in couples therapy, is often, “Of course you are being asked to change.” Allow me to explain… In relationships, we go from “I” and “you” to “we”. As “we”, we become better people; hopefully. We have a responsibility to ourselves and to the relationship. The intention is to not “lose ourselves” in a relationship, however, a healthy partnership challenges growth and change. In couples therapy, my approach is to target areas of growth, and yes, change, for the individual and couple. The “change” is discussed, agreed, and mutually beneficial.

Many couples seek counseling when they are experiencing conflict in their relationship. The most common reasons couples come to counseling is due to difficulity in communication, money and intimacy. Most of us learn to communicate by watching our own parents who may not have been the best teachers. I teach couples the common styles of communication (ie. often one person want to work out the issue immediately and the other person needs time to think and process the situation which can lead to distress). I help couples learn to communicate in a way that they can be heard and understood. Communication is also key to express intimacy needs and to get them met in a way that is mutually satisfying

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Our therapists specialize in working with couples of all backgrounds, ethnicities, sexualities, and identities to create thriving relationships. Our highly-trained counselors are here to help you heal your relationship and create a deeper connection and understanding for you and your partner. If you’re experiencing relationship challenges, hope is not lost. With the support and guidance of a trained therapist, deeper trust and understanding can be built. Reach out to our team at Therapy Center of Houston to see how we can help.

Through my extensive training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, I work to understand each partner's perspective of their relationship. Collaboratively, we explore how current interactions lead towards disconnection, and then we make efforts towards reconciling that disconnect towards a more nurturing, secure relationship that provides love and respect for both partners.