Anger Management and Counseling in Langley, WA.

Sometimes we all lose our cool. An annoyance or irritation can mount to a growing frustration--which can then lead to anger--and sometimes explode into rage or violence. Sometimes this is a slow, brewing process...and other times it moves like a speed train to anger explosions. If you or someone you love has lost control in the heat of anger like this, you know how devastating the results can be for you and those around you--sometimes the ones you care most deeply about. At Mill Creek Family Services, we get at the heart of the issues, ideas and behaviors that fuel the anger, and help you build the skills needed to cool the fire and learn more about yourself in the process.

Anger is a powerful, yet fascinating emotion that everyone experiences. If we have problems with it, we either stuff it and it makes us physically sick or we explode. It is like temporary insanity. I teach people how to identify the steps towards out of control anger and how to break out of the "anger trance." Gaining conscious awareness and choice is key. Anger usually is about getting a need met, but often people back away from the one who is angry. It is counterproductive. Domestic violence of (physical or emotional abuse) happen when we get stuck in patterns and try to control. I have helped a lot of people over the past 20 years move from the anger cycle to more loving relationships.

When someone is angry, there's often a belief that something wrong is happening that must be corrected and the way to get someone's attention to correct it is with a loud voice and/or harsh words. Unfortunately, this rarely solves anything and creates barriers to relationships and goals. Dr. Bill Roedel helps clients understand the root causes of their anger, acquire skills to manage the anger and create a plan for approaching the issue, and gain communication and negotiation skills so an agreeable, workable solution can be found. When the anger is grounded in the past, Dr. Roedel helps clients safely express their hurt and find ways to release resentments so they can move forward.

If your anger creates problems in your life, it's important to learn some skills to regulate your emtions. I can help you learn emotional regulation which includes how to be mindful and how to manage your anger and express it in a healthy way.I will work withyou to become more emotionally intelligent, so that you can be more effective in relationships. You will learn to become more aware of your own feelings and undertand where there feelings are coming from while being able to be in another's shoes and respecting and being considerate of that person and their way of thinking and feeling.

Have you ever found yourself in a rage and been told that you're overreacting? Do you often feel angry and have to exert immense control to keep that anger in check? Anger can be a consuming, destructive, and terrifying feeling, both for you and for those around you. But anger is not inherently bad. I work with clients who want to learn how manage their anger better. I help clients to develop a relationship with their anger so that anger can be a guide and a tool for them. This helps them to improve their sense of self, their confidence, and their relationships. If you think you could benefit from learning new ways to think, feel, and express anger, please reach out today.

I work to support the healthy expression of anger. Anger rises when your boundaries are violated in someway, when something tender within you is feeling threatened and wants protection. We explore what your anger is trying to bring to conscious awareness and allow that to rise from its hiding place within you so that it can receive compassion and understanding. Often, through revealing and offering that part of you attention, your relationship to it changes, dissipating much of the need for protection. Most of us have learned the lie that violence, raging is the only expression of anger. Discover your own creative and constructive, rather than destructive, ways to express anger.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.