Anger Management and Counselling in Port Alberni, BC.

No matter what happens, or how your day begins, a spark ignites within you and you feel a rage rise up that cannot be quenched until its exploded, showering the world with ash and darkness. No one understands. Everyone tells you to be calm. To chill out. To relax. Makes your skin itch and you want to scream with frustration. Hair trigger temper. Short fuse. Stop yelling at me. I don't like being screamed at. Do these phrases sound familiar? Well, we can work together to build new bridges and roads to a place where you feel heard, and understood. Communication doesn't have to be difficult. Lets talk together and create a place of harmony in the current chaos. It can be done. I promise.

Our anger can be a sentry, a protector and a wise indicator that our boundaries have been transgressed or that something vitally important to us is threatened. It can also be a raging tyrant, a short fuse, a simmering internalisation that off-gases through passive-aggression, or a childish tantrum. Becoming intimate with our anger is synonymous with becoming intimidate with our power. In anger therapy, we will work to understand the unique way your anger process happens through somatic awareness, mindfulness and emotional intimacy. We will look at your history with anger, your family lineage, and you will learn tools to channel this fire in ways that support rather than hinder your life.

Anger often surfaces to mask another emotion such as fear, rejection, jealousy, or sadness. I work with you to uncover your deeper feelings and explore how they are expressed through anger. Together, we explore healthy outlets and communication strategies which you can apply to your life immediately. Treatment is tailored to your individual circumstance and needs, with a focus on emotional regulation and self compassion.

Individuals struggling to manage anger can be exhausting and overwhelming; often there is a significant negative effect on others in their life. We will work to uncover where the intense anger is originating from and heal. We will also wok to develop new skills and tools to manage emotional situations in a more positive an effective way. It is also important to work to heal the damage to loved ones whom have been affected.

Has anger taken over your life? Are you seeking different ways to manage and cope with life’s stresses? I use a body based approach in working with people in reaching their goals. In addition, I share the ‘why’s’ & ‘how’s’ of feelings, the brain & nervous systems role in feelings/emotions. Learning and about and understanding your emotional landscape is key in overcoming anger.

Anger is a powerful emotion that often gets a bad reputation. If you are struggling with anger, one of the most important things to do is to hear the messages anger has for you. I have worked with anger with many clients and truly believe that understanding the deeper layers underneath anger is imperative. I will work with you to process anger and help you uncover what is going on deeper.

Anger can often feel so overwhelming that it causes you to do things you later regret. Not knowing what came over you, there are many unanswered questions: why do I keep doing this? why can't I stop myself? Sometimes, alcohol, substances, or other addictive behaviours lead to this anger, making it more difficult to control. As an addiction counsellor, I help clients overcome addictions leading to anger issues so they can regain a sense of control, rebuild relationships, and gain clarity about how to move forward. If you are unsure where to start, send me a message and I can help. If I'm not the right fit, I can connect you to the right support so you can start gaining back control, today.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.