Great Couples Counselling in Thornhill, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

I often hear 'Why would I go to a couples counselor? I know the problem and will figure out how to solve it.' This is logical but does not work. Why? A lot of the information you need is in the unconscious and unavailable to you. As an example, you do not realize that when your parents did not respond to your emotional needs you decided, at a young age, not to let anyone know those needs as you would only be disappointed and hurt. This negatively effects your relationships. Since I offer a free consultation I suggest we meet to help you see areas, that you ae unaware of, that need to be worked on for the kind of relationship you deserve.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Our couples therapy sessions are flexible and tailored to the needs of the relational unit. Whether you need longer sessions, evenings, or weekends, we're here to help you work through the difficulties in your relationship. Grounded in principles of Emotion Focused Therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, our couples therapist will work with both of you in a neutral, compassionate, and balanced way to try to bridge the divide that exists between you two.

Couples can often become fixated on repairing their partners’ behavior and waiting for the other to change before feeling content in the relationship. However, in my work with couples, I have found it fruitful to explore how each person in the relationship is contributing to a dynamic that they would like to change. I also believe that therapy should be a space where each person can express their views and feel validated and accepted by their partner(s). Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to ensure we are a good fit.

Intimate relationships are like a dance – they can be quite joyful and energizing but when facing obstacles, partners need to find the steps and rhythm to move more freely. Couple therapy can provide a safe space in which you and your partner can gain a deeper understanding of one another and what contributes to difficulties within the dance of your relationship. Should you decide to attend sessions, I will work with you to facilitate honest conversations, help you to better understand what you may need from one another, and support you in finding a way to step toward more acceptance, intimacy, and connection. Contact me or book a free consultation if you wish to learn more.

Difficulties can arise in intimate relationships and can be challenging to resolve. Couple therapy can help you talk about the issues in your relationship, better understand and process feelings and emotions that might lie behind the conflict or misunderstandings and find ways to reconnect, find common ground and meet your relationship goals. In your work with me, I aim to provide a safe space for you to openly share your thoughts and feelings while finding ways to be present and open to your partner’s experiences and perspectives. Schedule a free consultation with me to see if we are a good fit.

I use 9 steps of Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples identify their negative interaction cycle and each partner's role in that cycle. Steps 1-4 entails empowering the couples to access unacknowledged emotions underlying the interactional positions and to reframe the challenges in terms of underlying feelings and attachment needs. Steps 5-7 entails supporting and mediating couples to change interactional positions and creating new bonding experiences. Steps 8-9 entails encouraging the couples to integrate new solutions to old relational problems.

You are at the end of your rope. You love your partner, you don't want to end the relationship but your partner is so distant and disconnected, so you are looking for help. Perhaps you just found out the awful truth that your partner is having an affair. Maybe you have tried couple therapy before and things improved a bit then you found yourself back in the same sad stuck place. Couples often need help to find their way back to each other. Please visit my website or call me to find out how I can help you heal wounds and create the strong loving connection with your partner that you deserve.