Great Couples Counselling in Toronto, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

My approach is to help people recognize that relationships are two-sided and understand how each individual contributes to the couple’s dynamic. With that understanding, we work toward reaching a win-win situation, aiming to restore the satisfaction of the relationship. Together, we create a safe space for you to grow past the areas of “stuckness” -- that is, the old patterns that are learned when we are young and are brought to our current relationships. This is true for all of us. Therapy enables us to form new and healthy attachment patterns that are nourishing and nurturing, providing opportunities for new growth and satisfaction.

One of the biggest decisions we make in life is choosing our partner. And then the real work begins. Divorce rates speak to how difficult sustaining a healthy marriage can be. Evidence-based studies have shown essential elements to a healthy and nourishing relationship. Couples counselling focuses on a variety of these areas including, communication, conflict management/resolution, and connection. Presenting issues include communication, conflict, infidelity, parenting issues, separation and divorce.

Are you unhappy in your relationship? Would you like to learn how to treasure each other again? There are many ways to improve things between you and restore caring, IF you are both committed to the outcome. I believe in the work of Harville Hendrix and also in the value of agreeing to disagree sometimes, and to work around it. Forgiveness is a gift to ourselves as well as to our loved ones. Let's get started -- the sooner the better for the health of your relationship.

Seeing a couples therapist is often stigmatized as "the beginning of the end" of a relationship. More often than not, however, it's a way to open up channels of communication between two people (sometimes members of a company) so that they may understand what's going on, and how they might be contributing to it. I also recognize a systems approach to couples therapy, and encourage working with the individuals in a relationship as well as together.

I help clients understand the negative interactional cycles that they find themselves in. After and during this movement towards understanding, we get at the underlying emotions and attachment needs that are so critical to having a safe-haven relationship with one's partner. The goal is to be safe, secure, understood and compassionately held in a love relationship.

In working with couples, I use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. This approach looks at the cycle or emotional dance that occurs within a couple relationship and it seeks to understand how one partner's emotions fuel their behaviors or coping mechanisms, which impact the other partners emotions and so on. Often couples get stuck in an emotional dance of disconnection which becomes polarizing as they each continue to push the other away. Couples often end up in my office once the disconnection has resulted in an affair which has been caught or some other attachment injury. Hope is found once the dance is understood. This initial deescalation can happen in as little as 1-2 sessions.

Relationships are one of the most fulfilling experiences a person can have in their life. Couples may find themselves faced with challenges that are not always identifiable and can cause you to question your relationship. Couples therapy can provide guidance, support and help you build upon your relationship/bond with your partner, and strengthen the connection that the two of you have so that you can continue to enjoy and appreciate your union. I work with couples in all stages of their relationship. I provide a neutral, supportive and collaborative environment so that you can feel comfortable to express yourself fully.

I use a variety of strategies to help people learn how to nurture and maintain enduring relationships. Using EFT (Emotional Focused Therapy for Couples), along with energetic, cognitive and behavioral strategies, I help people feel, think and act in ways that are most conducive to happiness and harmony in their intimate lives. Often it is more important to repair the process of communication than it is to solve any one issue. Once partners learn how to take care of each other's sensitivities and vulnerabilities, learning to respect rather than change the person they are with, it becomes easier to solve problems and resolve issues.

Relationships are vital to life but are also messy and hard. I am passionate about helping couples cultivate better relationships with each other. In a safe, nonjudgmental and compassion-filled therapeutic relationship, I will work with you to understand your relationship patterns and help you identify ways to change that will help you build a stronger & deeper connection, and open the door to a more fulfilling relationship.

At Chanderbhan Counselling we understand that like all individuals, that relationships too are unique. Keeping that in mind, we work with both persons to create common goals for counselling or therapy. The counsellor is an impartial advocate for both parties and can help negotiate and improve communication, and help achieve resolution for your shared goals. Some examples of issues where counselling can help couples include: Communication & Openness, Anger & Assertiveness, Intimacy, Gender Roles, Issues of Infidelity, Pre-marital Counselling, Financial Issues, Moving In Together, Parenting, Ending a Relationship, Post Relationship Work: Working Towards a Friendship.

When one person is leaning out of the relationship and the future of the relationship is uncertain, discernment counseling provides clarity and confidence in order to make a decision about how to move forward. It is a short term intervention where both partners are supported to gain understanding about the issues in their relationship, and based on that understanding, make a choice about whether try to move forward as a couple or not. It is not couples therapy and "fixing" the relationship is not the goal. Discernment counseling is like taking a step back in order to help each partner assess if repairing the relationship is a feasible and worthwhile endeavor.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

When a couple is in trouble, the act of seeking out a counsellor has to be motivated by the desire to stay together through hard work. Therapy is not for those who need it but for those who want it. This is even more true when it comes to working with couples. The journey is one of finding once more what brought them together in the first place. We work with forgiveness and building trust. We find ways for the couple to once again feel a sense of warmth and compassion as we break down the walls of resentment. We look at what is triggering the couple to fight. We go through the anatomy of a common and repetitive fight. i also teach the couple some body centered techniques.