Great Couples Counselling in Markham, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couples counselling focusses on enhancing your relationship with your partner. You may do this type of therapy with, or without, your partner. Benefits to your relationship still can come from attending couples sessions on your own, such as, improving communication skills, developing assertiveness, overcoming resentments, improving intimacy, learning new ways to deal with your partner. When attending with your partner: * Learning how each of you are in relationships (early influences, patterns, self-defeating styles) * Increasing self-expression * Learning constructive ways to argue and fight * Better understanding of the each other (who you are really dealing with)

How can we learn and grow together in a relationship? Having and sustaining a meaningful relationship is one of the most important aspects of our lives. When we love one another, we can sometimes face roadblocks that contribute towards a rupture or breakdown in our primary relationship. Couples Counselling can help you understand how some of your personal patterns may be negatively affecting your relationship. This is an opportunity to feel heard and understood by your partner and to open yourselves towards new possibilities of communication and understanding in your relationship. Take the opportunity to share and grow together in your relationship.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Relationship with "other" (meaning really anything outside of ourselves) is probably the most important aspect of living. The better this relationship is, the more fulfilling a life can become. More specifically, the relationship with a human partner is probably the most important of all relationships. Is it true to you that your heartfelt relationship with your partner is truly an integral "need" in your life? Some say that we all need connection, acceptance, and love in order to be whole human beings. Are those three essentials present in your relationship? Do you want to find ways to bring them more fully into your life?

The couple bond becomes the most important connection in adult life. This couple relationship fulfills and sustains us when it works well and can also be debilitating when it does not. Adult attachment will also be affected by childhood attachment experiences, often making the adult bond an interesting place for triggers and emotions as well as healing and a soft place to land. My work with couples involves re-discovering the reasons for choosing each other, determining what is causing their difficulties and their willingness to restore the relationship. Important tools I use to do this is uncovering emotions, beliefs and assumptions and improving emotional communication and intimacy.

Many couples encounter difficulties at some point in their relationship. Whether it is communication or some other area of difficulty, therapy can provide a safe environment in which to explore your strengths as couple. Providing a warm and compassionate environment in which to explore reasons behind disharmony, dissention and arguing. Together we can work towards a happier and healthier relationship that will take you into your future.

If you are finding yourselves stuck in the same 'merry-go-round' (although not so merry!) of poor communication and accusation/defensiveness, winners and losers, your marriage probably feels like you're going nowhere fast! You think you've married the wrong person and feel that you've tried everything in your 'tool-bag' to do. If you don't have 'win-win', what you essentially have is 'lose-lose'.. I will advocate for your marriage...I will be your cheerleader and your coach combined, showing you how to get out of this destructive cycle and move forward to something much more satisfying. I will help you rebuild when hurts have been deep. Don't delay on this...sooner is better!

Couples do not realize that they are acting exactly as their parents did in their relationships. I shine a light on this, by exploring each person's individual family maps, their parent's communication stances and their family (rigid) rules, both verbal and non-verbal. When this is done with both individuals in a relationship, they can better see how they can change and transform their current relationship into healthier way. I follow many approaches to Couples work, via Imago work, Gottman's 4 horsemen and Satir therapy. I use them all in conjunction to allow the couple to clearly see their personal processes and how they can learn a better way to relate with each other.

Specializing in couple therapy, I can help you and your partner work through difficult times such as affairs, broken relationship, losses, etc. As I am informed by Emotion Focused Therapy (which is effective in couple therapy), I can assist you in reaching out to your partner despite your fear and uncertainty. You will experience a closer and intimate relationship.

Having a soul-mate to share your life with brings such a joyful and fruitful experience. However, misunderstanding and miscommunication by your significant other can also make your whole world up side down. Through couple counselling, both of your feelings will be addressed and validated. In addition, you will understand how your communication styles create an unhealthy cycle and pattern that need to be broken in order to foster a long-lasting healthy relationship.

Winnie provides non-judgemental and compassionate couple therapy. In dealing with Couples counselling she primarily draws from her training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT is the most progressive and well researched therapeutic interventions used in Couples Therapy. By using this practical and effective method, the goal is to help couples to identify their cycle, how they are connecting in their distressing patterns, and how they can be helped to reconnect again in a new pattern. Winnie has also attended the Intensive Sex Therapy course at University of Guelph.

I support one individual in a relationship and do not communicate directly with the other individual unless I receive permission to do so. This approach to couples counselling is especially helpful in situations where one person is thinking of leaving the relationship or in cases where emotional, verbal or more obvious forms of abuse may be happening. I can support you to take a step back, get clear on what you would like for yourself and the relationship, and take action to get where you want to be.

I believe that marriage/relationship is not about finding the right person, but rather about becoming the right person. When you focus on your own behaviors and the way you treat the person you love, it will not be long before things begin to change. None of us have the power or ability to change another human being. We cannot make someone do what we want them to do. But, we can make ourselves do what we need to do in order to become the kind of person who is worthy of being in a good, healthy relationship. I will help you be a better person, more worthy of being in a healthy relationship. Focus on what you can do to make things better without any agenda toward the other person and watch what ....