Anger Management and Counseling in Palm Desert, CA.

Anger is a behavior that can truly destroy individuals and families. It can be the result of earlier powerlessness, trauma and abuse. An individual needs to understand what triggers them, why they are responding in the manner they are, and to find healthier ways of expressing their emotions. Understanding the reasons behind the anger is key to helping an individual see their reactions are from past hurt and not current circumstances. Medication at times can assist the therapy in reducing the degree of anger.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

For men and teens, anger is one of the few acceptable emotions but when it gets out of hand, it can hurt those we love and endanger our relationships. I work with men and teens to explore the underlying issues that result in their anger to free them to convert the anger into more useful ways to communicate. This results in more productive and healthier ways to express their needs, fears and desires. With women, I make it easier for them to express their anger, which they have suppressed most of their life. When women realize they have the right to their anger, they are freed to express more and become the person they have always wanted to be, particularly in their relationships.

Here at My True Temperament Christian Counseling, LLC, we teach anger management skills through the lens of the Bible and also teach better communication skills and relaxation techniques. Anger is a natural emotion which more often than not is a signal that something in the client's environment isn't working. We discuss with the client what upsets him/her and we try and eliminate it. During the anger management therapeutic process, we remind all our clients about the importance of keeping a sense of humor.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.