Anger Management and Counseling in Pittsburg, CA.

Anger can feel overwhelming, out of control an this is not a good feeling. Learning how to manage this anger can help you regain a sense of control and confidence within yourself. It can be helpful to understand what might be triggering this anger. The more you can understand yourself and your behaviors, you then will have the ability to change the unwanted reactions that have probably created many negative consequences for you. Together we can work on your anger management goals and I will support you through this process.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Think before you speak. Express anger when calm, not in the heat of the moment. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same. I teach clients to express frustration in an assertive, non-confrontational way. To state concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them. There are several useful, evidence-based methods to use in the face of unhealthy behaviors such as anger mismanagement. I teach my clients to become aware of these habits, and work on changing them by engaging them in talking about what lies underneath anger which is a secondary emotion.

Expression of anger is often the gateway to reaching underlying feelings of pain, such as hurt. In therapy - with both individuals and couples - I help angry persons stay connected to their upset feelings and express them in a way that strengthens relationships. When we have the courage to share the painful feelings with persons we trust, we experience increased self-confidence and deeper intimacy. If you have repetitive EXPLOSIVE anger, which is emotionally harmful or physically dangerous, I urge you to find an anger management group, where participants work together to gain control over these behaviors, before seeking therapy with me. For more visit KinseyLeaseCounseling.com

Anger is one feeling that seems to come up readily when we are hurt, feel misunderstood, feel hopeless, or wronged. Anger in itself is not a bad thing. It is an emotion like all others, but how we find resources, who we turn to, having someone to talk to, and then deciding what to do, can be helpful. Anger can be a useful tool if we can understand what has triggered us and what to do about it in ways that are not self destructive. I offer a safe place to explore all the feelings surrounding anger so that it starts to feel like something you have a choice in expressing the way you want to.

A lot of people "bottle and blow," not saying what they want to say a bunch of times and then blowing up. So a big part of managing anger has to do with finding better ways to get what you want. There are also helpful strategies for containing your impulse to blow up, so it doesn't get away from you and make things worse. Lots of people think that it's good to "blow off steam," but in fact we have clear data that "venting" anger actually makes you more angry!

Managing anger is an opening of the door to the Self. Therapy is of tremendous value for anyone who wants to learn more about responding in the world rather than reacting in the world -and later wishing you hadn't....again and again and again.Managing anger has nothing to do with willpower and everything to do with gaining consciousness, setting intentions, and learning about the wounded parts of the self that are lurking below the surface that can trigger such chaos in one's life. ready to get off the roller coaster of reactivity and begin to feel empowered and happy like never before? Please call to learn how i work with anger management today at 925-520-5263.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

Clients often identify "anger" as a primary concern on counseling intake forms. So many of us struggle with anger because it occurs in response to so many life experiences and we are rarely taught how to appropriately communicate about it. Anger, and the way we express it, often leaves us with negative consequences that impact our lives at home and at work. The reality about anger is that it is often a secondary emotion...a reaction to hurt and pain. Cognitive therapy can help identify what thoughts and events trigger our anger. Once we can identify the triggers we can learn to be more conscious and active in choosing how we will respond to them.

More than 20 years ago, I had an "Anger Management" problem. I know what it is like to try to keep it under control to only find myself saying cruel things I wish I didn't say. It destroyed a relationship. However, that inspired me to learn how to deal with my anger in a healthy way. I was highly motivated; it took me less than 12 sessions. If you struggle with your anger, we will come up with real strategies that help you pay attention to what is going on in your body so we can prevent the angry outbursts from happening. You may need somebody who can challenge you and keep you in check while at the same time not judging you. Your next step is to call me to make an appointment.

Anger can feel like an all consuming reaction to something other may have done to you intentionally or unintentionally. However, we always wind up on dealing with the aftermath of our anger when we didn't even feel like we were in control of the situation. If this is happening, we will working on developing anger management strategies. We will identify those common words or behaviors that set us off and try to better understand our anger in the beginning stages. This will allow us to start establishing and using coping strategies that will put us in control. Ideally, these techniques and strategies will help improve our relationships with those that we want to spend time with.

Although anger is an emotion that we were all born with, it is also a choice. Jesus said don't be quick to anger and don't sin in your anger, but He never said don't be angry. We all have this emotion - it is only a matter of controlling and taming it. It is a choice. I give my clients tools that help them achieve that goal. Anger is a lot of energy that can be used for good - it's just the matter of knowing how and I help with that.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.