Anger Management and Counseling in San Juan Bautista, CA.

Many times individuals do not realize they are angry, feel guilty for feelings of anger and/or they don't know how to effecively control anger and make it work for them in a healthy manner. Anger in of itself is not bad. It is what we do with it that really matters. Either your anger controls you or you can learn how to control it and make it work effectively for you. Facing the pain of what is causing your anger does not have to take long to get healing and once again have happy and fulfilling relationships. However, facing the pain and gaining healing does not happen in isolation, so consider getting the help you deserve.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Anger is a signal emotion which alerts the individual to look at unfinished buisness from their past or the relationships they are in and problem solve effectively.Also skills such as time outs and remembering the things you like about yourself and partner can be useful.Typically we rehearse emotional situations using expressive formats of psychotherapy such as psychodrama and provide skills training.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.