Find a Therapist in Big Bear Lake, California.

James Hillman once said, "We've had a hundred years of psychotherapy and the world is getting worse." While there are many occasions where the validation and listening endemic to psychotherapy makes sense, there are times where we over assume that "feeling better" and "changing behavior" are the same. Grey Matters International, Inc. goes after the forgotten brain laws to behavior change that therapists miss when processing hours and hours of dialogues with people. Utilizing a cutting edge technology to facilitate the emotional process of change, we can make the therapy process way more effective, faster, and with less money spent. Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I'm a seasoned licensed individual therapist with a focus on how relationships shape our personalities and overall mental health. I use a comprehensive blend of therapeutic approaches including Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems, and Object-Relations Psychotherapy. Tailoring to the unique needs of individuals seeking personal growth, I empower clients to explore underlying patterns and emotional complexities. With an empathetic and goal-oriented perspective, clients find a path towards self-awareness, emotional balance, and confidence. My deep commitment to individual well-being positions me as an ideal guide for those seeking to transform and enhance their lives in therapy.

My approach to psychotherapy is mostly relational. I take a family systems approach that addresses relationships in my clients' lives and improves their functioning for better health and happiness. Clients under my care learn how to unilaterally improve the functioning of a relationship through boundaries and self-confrontation. The result is individuals and relationships that thrive.

Let's think outside the box. I'm a supervising psychotherapist and project contractor with extensive experience. I've worked with government (CDC; INS; City of New York), NYC hospitals, nonprofits and the private sector. I've treated adults, adolescents & families in both inpatient and outpatient settings. I integrate state-of-the-art evidence based treatments with empowerment tools. When we're more empowered we become better able to attain wanted outcomes and self-discovery. My practice leans into person-centered "Client Driven Therapy." If your goal is to make a change or resolve a conflict, you can begin here. I work well with clients who seek new methods to support personal growth.

While I am technically a psychotherapist, I do not like the word "psychotherapy" for two reasons. First, when people hear the word, they usually think of a troubled person reclining on a couch. I like to think of myself as an advanced coach because I can help people regardless of the severity of their challenges, but we can get deep into the nitty-gritty emotional content of a relationship if we need to. Second, I work with more than one person, because I help improve relationships, which *may* involve two or more people in the room.

My clients often find me easy to talk to and say they feel comfortable with me, trusting quickly. This can make the psychotherapeutic process easier and more effective for my clients, especially if they are nervous or don’t know what to expect. Therapy with me can range from just talking casually with each other, leading to insights, increased self awareness, and processing through emotional issues, or it could be more intensive deeper therapy like EMDR.

Are you struggling right now in your life? Not feeling confident? Relationship problems? Feeling like no one understands you? It is my goal to help you get through your struggles and heal emotionally without compromising your faith, values or future happiness. I specialize in mood disorders, depression, anxiety, sleep issues… I also work with those with dual diagnoses (substances), as well as, support in medication management. I also work with families who are struggling with communication, provide anger management and parenting classes, as well as support those that want better relationships. If you are not sure if I can help, give me a call. Your 15 minute phone consultation is free.

In my office you will find empathy for and validation of your emotional pain. I believe the total person needs to be considered in regards to gender, temperament, personality and personal beliefs. My theoretical focus has been in Cognitive-Behavioral therapy, and Bowen's Extended Family therapy. However, I have found Emotion Focused therapy to be effective with couples, and have been using it for a number of years. Because you will have your emotions validated in a very powerful and empathetic manner, you will not feel overwhelmed when confronted with a challenge to change.

Psychotherapy gives you a place that exists for one purpose: to understand you. Away from the roles you play and the people you look after, you can finally turn toward your own experience and say what's true. That alone can be a relief; over time, it becomes much more. My role is to listen with care and to help you notice what you've overlooked: the recurring themes, the feelings that don't add up, the desires and fears you may not have put into words before. Much of what shapes us runs quietly underneath the surface, and bringing it into the open is what allows things to shift. The trust we build together is part of how the work heals: being met with serious attention and care.