Great Couples Counseling in Newman, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

I have years of experience working with people to improve their relationships. I have training from the Gottman Institute and use many of the concepts in my own office to increase the understanding of the basic foundations of successful long-term relationships. At this time I am treating couples by treating the individual partner to improve the couple dynamics.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

How is it that we are so clearly built for relationships, but also so bad at them? Often couples crave intimacy and connection from their partner but feel like there is junk in the way that keeps them separated from that connection. Both members of the couple keep walls up and are self-protective. This makes them quick to respond to slights, to hold on to the pain caused by past slights, and live with the anticipation of the next slight. As a relationship coach, I work with couples to identify the typical patterns that are present in their relationship to find connection, a space to be vulnerable, and a place to be truly seen. (I am LGBTQ and inclusive)

Couples may they be in a dating relationship, living together, engaged to marry, married, in business together, separating, divorcing, fighting over children, property, alimony or visitation, are often confronted with a breakdown in communication and an inability to resolve conflicts. Couple counseling aims to reveal the disconnect within a couple that often once had the ability to connect and function in harmony. Couples can quickly get off track with one another and need skilled guidance to help them learn to resolve conflicts, once again listen and communicate effectively as well as to be able to disagree without forcing the relationship to end.

Couples can get in a routine and can get bored with the relationship. This can lead to drifting apart and turning away from each other. Some couples deals with trust issues that can really break the marriage if not fixed. I help couples to rebuild their relationship and feel safe and secure with their spouse. They learn how to rekindle the love and admiration that got them together to begin with.