Grief and Loss Counseling in Coto de Caza, CA.

Grieving can be such a complicated process, filled with mixed emotions. Even seeking closure can feel confusing and wrong at times. Therapy can provide a place to gently face painful feelings and thoughts. You do not need to stay stuck in the suffering, confusion, or pain. By processing through these layers with a trained professional, you can gain understanding, peace, and healing.

I have worked with various types of depression, loss, hopelessness and grief since I have been in this counseling field for close to 30 years. This is what a client recently stated..." I wasn't able to function on my job. I had to have someone else do my work! I'm now doing GREAT at work! Before I was only able to sleep 2-3 hours a night. Now...My sleep's back to normal! No more thoughts of suicide and no more depression! I can't believe it! Now...I'm... EVEN... happy! I've been doing the things you've suggested and THEY"VE WORKED! I feel blessed! All this within a few visits?!"

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

EXPERIENCING THE INTENSE PAIN OF LOSS? Whether it is due to the loss of a loved one, a job or something that means a lot to you, I can help! In counseling you can work through the feelings of sadness, grief, emptiness, regret, anger, guilt, frustration… so that you can come to terms with unfinished businesses and move on to healing, recovery, growth and empowerment. Don't hesitate to call me for a free telephone consultation session.

Most often when we lose loved ones in our lives we are expected to get back to our daily routine only days or weeks after our loss. But grieving takes time. We need time to think, feel, and process in a safe space with someone who cares. Dr. Simina's warm and genuine approach provides individuals with the opportunity to feel, grieve, and process through all that the loss of a loved one brings.

Many losses can feel unbearable. Sometimes it may feel like you cannot survive the pain. Grieving is painful, however repressing the pain is worse. It is crucial that you express and mourn your losses. Emotional illness like depression and anxiety occur when we do not express our grief. I would like to help you work through the grieving process and begin living your life again.

Grief is a painful and frightening process and it's important to recognize that each individual experiences grief in a different way. There is no "right way" to grieve. Some people may show a lot of emotion and others may retreat into themselves and become quiet. Alternatively, some people may become physically ill, display anger, throw themselves into a project or work, or simply lay on the couch and feel unable to do anything. Psychotherapy helps in understanding the grief process and assists in actively working through it. It also helps in developing an awareness of the strong feelings you have and an understanding of how previous experiences and loss have an impact today.

I understand the tremendous sorrow we experience when losing someone special in our lives. Beyond our loss, grief can also leave us in isolation. Friends and family may not know what to do to help, so they do nothing, or say things that invalidate our feelings. I do not believe we move through "stages" of grief. While we may experience emotions like denial or anger, grief often manifests as a great wave-- some days it knocks us down, some days we ride it out. Do not sit alone in your grief. I will walk with you through feelings of pain and emptiness, while honoring the memory of your loved one and navigating your life in its new normal.

People come and go in our lives and many times the emotions related to people leaving our lives is sometimes more than we can handle. The sadness and feelings of loss or separation is often disabling and we feel like we cannot move forward. Grief, loss and separation from someone can even be physically debilitating. Through grief and loss counseling, we will work with your emotional distress while we discover new paths to act in response to your emotional pain.

Grief & loss is often felt with the death of a loved one. It can also be experienced from the loss of a relationship, your health, your job, or your home. The grieving process can be complicated. You may love someone who suffers from a significant memory loss due to Alzheimer’s, stroke or a traumatic brain injury. You may feel guilty for grieving the loss of the person you knew before the illness because you feel you should be grateful he/she is still alive. As a person loses their memory, an important part of who they are gets lost. It is appropriate for this grieving process to begin before death. I would love to support you through whatever loss you are currently experiencing.

We all experience forms of grief and loss at times in our life. If we can thoroughly and deeply allow ourselves to grieve our losses, it lessens the chance loss will convert into depression. The natural tendency is to avoid this process, but we benefit greatly from submitting to it. Loss is inevitable, but we can have an influence on how we choose to handle it. One of my greatest privileges is to come alongside someone who is grappling with a profound loss in their life. It can be a time of significant transformation.

We have helped many clients overcome complications from the emotional trauma of separation and loss, helping them to find relief and comfort. Our intentional and respectful approach designed to address each client's unique needs as they learn about the various types of grief, understand their own grief profile, make sense of their pain, and engage effectively in their unique tasks of mourning. As an intentional process, we empathically join with clients in caring and helpful ways, shifting focus to attend to their unique set of experiences, exploring and unpacking the normal physical aspects, thoughts, behaviors, unwanted emotions, and urges related to the grief process.

As a certified Bereavement Counselor, I help adults and children who are struggling with the process of grief. The journey through loss is not about letting go, it is about creating a new, and different relationship with your loved one that provides comfort and that is everlasting. There are no "shoulds", despite what well-meaning friends and familiy members might tell you. I will help you get in touch with what is right for you, and you alone.