Anger Management and Counseling in Sherman, CT.

Anger can permeate all aspects of our lives. Learning the tools to diffuse anger will allow you to live a healthier happier life. Together, we will source the anger, recognize where is stems from, notice it, and begin to heal the wounds that cause the anger flare up allowing you to respond in a meaningful way in place of an instance reaction to your stressors.

Erupting and lashing out to relieve your pain creates disruption in your everyday life. While anger is a healthy emotion, lashing out and rage creates guilt and relationship destruction. In my 30+ years of clinical practice, I have provided my clients with a non-judgemental safe environment so together we can build a trust where they can be open and honest without embarrassment or shame. In letting down their defenses and acknowledging their behavior my clients learn how to emotionally regulate their pain by taking ownership and removing themselves from the current situation, which gives them space to provide a more regulated and healthy response.

Anger is often triggered by an underlying emotion such as sadness, disappointment but comes out in a way that protects these feelings. Some anger can be healthy; as in being angry enough at a growing waistline to sign up for the gym or speaking up when boundaries get crossed over and over. Through using cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness techniques, clients can learn to communicate in ways that meet their needs and still respect the needs of others.

Together we will look at where the anger is truly coming from. We will look at past family patterns that may have handed this down to you. We will look at your current situation and see perhaps who you are really angry at. Sometimes it is not who or what you think. We will work on tactics to release your angry in a healthy manner and see what is under the anger.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.