Anger Management and Counseling in Deer Park, IL.

You know your anger has made real messes in your life--at work, with friends, in your love life. I can show you many ways to get to the roots of your dark demons and fiery dragons. There are reasons and excuses that have been fueling your anger and you can only benefit from studying yourself. Saying you are sorry hasn't stopped your anger from returning. Anger that you understand and manage can serve you. Without looking inside yourself, anger will control you and cost you a lot more than time and money.

Anger is not bad by itself. Getting adrenaline drunk though, can give you power at the time, but can also be destructive. Other types of anger may be hidden from view, but slowly eat away at your happiness. I can help you find your triggers, understand how they affect you, and work with you to develop coping tools to both prevent and recover from the stress hormones that accompany anger.

I use a pyscho educational approach with working with anger management. In that I teach about anger being a secondary emotion that often protects hurt and fear. We go through the anger cycle and ways to change that cycle. The goal is help clients move from destructive behaviors to constructive communication and behaviors. A typical anger management process takes four to six sessions.

If after getting a flat tire, you think and continue to say to yourself: "This sucks"…This is terrible"…"Why does this always happen to me?"…"I can’t stand it"… anger will be the likely emotional response. And if you typically think in a negative way, then you will likely be more prone to psychological and physical difficulties like anger, poor relationships, stroke and heart disease.On the other hand, someone who thinks to himself "I’m glad that I have a spare tire"…"I can handle this"…"This is a hassle, not a horror", will react in a more realistic manner. Cognitive behavioral therapy can help you learn how to cope more effectively with life's challenges and lead a happier life.

Anger is an emotion that can be very hard to manage and respond to effectively because most people often have a very automatic and impulsive response when they experience anger. Through dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) we can begin to identify emotions and begin to slow down in order to recognize ways to respond to emotions rather than react to them. This will help you feel more in control of your emotions as well as improve your relationships with others because of your ability to manage and respond to anger effectively.

Clients seeking support for anger management will find a nonjudgmental space to understand what’s behind their anger and how it shows up in daily life. Together, we’ll explore triggers, identify underlying emotions, and develop practical strategies to respond rather than react. The goal isn’t to get rid of anger—but to learn how to express it in healthier, more constructive ways that support your relationships, goals, and overall well-being.