Great Couples Counselling in Greater Napanee, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

Relationships are like two people singing at the same time. Sound beautiful? But imagine if the two songs were not similar in tune or harmony and didn’t match each other at all. That’s where couples therapy comes in – separating clashing issues and perspectives, so the harmony becomes more like a well orchestrated symphony. Many couples will often try to manage their challenges for years, struggling to feel connected and heard, before ever seeking therapy. Repair and reconciliation have been futile. Therapy can help couples see the role they each play within the relationship and help them learn new strategies and communication techniques to overcome unhealthy patterns of interaction.

Couples can often become fixated on repairing their partners’ behavior and waiting for the other to change before feeling content in the relationship. However, in my work with couples, I have found it fruitful to explore how each person in the relationship is contributing to a dynamic that they would like to change. I also believe that therapy should be a space where each person can express their views and feel validated and accepted by their partner(s). Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to ensure we are a good fit.

Communication skills are particularly useful for couples but often need to be learned and practiced. Past hurts need to be mended and cuts need to heal before trust and commitment can build a new foundation on which to move forward. Sometimes the early months of a relationship spark excitement and feelings of euphoria; however, these euphoric feelings give way to familiarity, and we start taking each other for granted. Relationship counseling promotes individual growth and awareness and works towards improved intimacy and deeper connection. Using the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help partners bring back the spark and give you new reasons to celebrate.

An intimate partnership is a strong and powerful connection between two people, and it is often a complex dance of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. In couple and relationship therapy my goal is to assist couples in resolving problems and conflicts that they have not been able to handle effectively on their own. Therapy involves both partners sitting down with me to discuss their thoughts and feelings. My aim is to allow each partner to gain a better understanding of themselves and their partner and help them to decide if they need and want to make changes in their lives and in their relationship. I provide a supportive safe space to help couples learn new ways to relate to each other.

Conflict and loneliness can be most painful when they arise in our most cherished relationship. Therapy can provide a supportive space to explore your concerns in an open and honest way with your partner. My approach to couples therapy acknowledges the importance of relationships in our lives and focuses on strengthening these relationships by fostering safe, honest and open communication. Contact me to start your healing journey and book a free consultation

I love seeing couples move from a place of conflict and disharmony to a place of deep intimacy and respect for one another. With training in emotionally focused therapy, I approach couple therapy from an attachment perspective, exploring the nature of partner conflict (Identifying their negative cycle of communication), identifying the emotions that drive the negative cycle, and working with the couple to help them re-express those emotions needs in healthier ways.

Relationship’s dynamics can be challenging to navigate even during the best of times, and couple therapy can help partners find new ways to relate, connect, and communicate with each other. Asking for what you want and need in a relationship can be scary, so therapy should be a safe space where you and your partner feel comfortable exploring your needs and expectations together. I work collaboratively with clients to identify and explore patterns of interaction that they want to strengthen or change in their relationships, as well as holding space for vulnerability and connection. Book a free consultation to learn more about my approach and explore if we are a good fit.

We all long for connection. Many of us feel great in the times when a relationship is new and the connection is just developing. The problems come when we have to repair distance/rifts in that connection, or when we need to sustain and deepen our connection to our partners. Maybe we never learned how. Maybe we carry scars and trauma from past relationships. Maybe we have patterns in our histories that we never really dealt with. Maybe all of the above. Our work together will take all of that into account and in a non-judgmental environment, we will hold space for you both to learn how to repair, strengthen and maintain your most important relationships.

Romantic relationships can be hard work. They require regular care to keep them functioning well. Many couples expect romance to go on forever without doing the necessary work only to face the realities of relationships. Relationship issues become more magnified when one or both parties carry a history of trauma. Couples counselling can help individuals learn about one another, communicate effectively and grow as individuals while becoming loving partners. The therapist is an unbiased party who is there to help both partners function together well as a unit by providing solution-based interventions.