Anger Management and Counselling in Greater Napanee, ON.

In working with clients with anger-management problems, my approach often involves helping them feel understood and heard. Then, to increase their awareness of the different contributors to their issue, be it from unresolved feelings about past events, difficult recent events or worrying about the future. Using a structured cognitive-behavioral approach, such as found in CBT based workbooks such as the Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Anger (William J Knaus) is often part of my strategy to increase insight and healthier coping skills.

Anger can be a powerful force for change in our lives - it can give us the energy to move from situations that might be unhealthy or unsafe. However, when anger becomes difficult to control, or when t begins to hurt the people we love, it is no longer helpful. I provide a safe place to explore what anger is, how it affects us, how it can be helpful, and when it has become detrimental to either yourself or those you loves, and to work with you to find ways to manage that anger in healthy ways.

I have extensive forensic and clinical experience in the area of anger management and related issues such as conflict resolutions, violence, dispute, etc. Are you frequently experiencing anger, rage, resentment, bitterness, is your anger out of control at times. Does it affect relationships? Are people afraid of you or intimidated? Do they tell you that you need to do something about it? Together we will try to explore the underlying thoughts and beliefs, emotions, triggers, that are causing you such emotional reactions. We shall try to find strategies to minimize emotional volatility, problematic behavior, how to better respond and very importantly, avoid issue with the law.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Everyone experiences anger at times but don’t necessarily recognize that anger is a secondary emotion; a reaction to other underlying emotions. Emotions management is vital to being successful in the world and having the ability to have healthy relationships and achieve our goals. In our sessions together we will explore underlying emotions, their root causes, and learn to identify triggers and more effectively manage emotions and reactions. If you are struggling with anger/emotions management and would like to learn strategies to help you cope better, please book a free consultation.

Anger is often thought of as a negative emotion, but I like to think of Anger as the part of you that loves you and wants to stand up for you when you’ve experienced something “unfair.” Anger does not always make the best decisions about when to stand up for you, so I work collaboratively with clients to identify and explore how anger shows up in their lives, and to strengthen and develop strategies to minimize the impact it has on living the life you want to live. Book a free consultation to learn more about my approach and explore if we are a good fit.

There are 3 phases in working with Anger 1.Prevention- Attempts to forestall the very onset of anger. 2. Intervention- Aims to reduce the intensity or the duration of anger that has already ignited. 3. Postvention- Aims to discharge any residual anger. Emotions are regulated by re-experiencing, releasing, or converting them into a safe form. We will not only focus on your cognitions and behaviors as entry points but also focus on the modification of affect (your emotions). Anger is an emotion. To have no room in therapy for the feeling component of this emotion is to deny its very essence, your existence. Gestalt perspective- Expression of anger can be very productive. Let out!

My approach to anger management is grounded in understanding anger as meaningful information rather than something to suppress or judge. Clients are supported in identifying triggers, underlying emotions, and patterns that contribute to escalation. We work on building awareness of bodily cues and developing practical regulation strategies so responses feel more intentional. Clients often experience improved communication, reduced reactivity, and a greater sense of control over their emotional responses, allowing anger to be expressed in healthier and more constructive ways.